​When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need. –Lao Tzu

Moving on can sometimes be extremely difficult and near impossible, especially when it has to do with a broken relationship, loss of a loved one, business disaster, reputational damage, or natural disaster. Any of these occurrences can cause a lot of trauma and disillusion. Victims usually refuse to accept reality and often see themselves still in the pre-trauma period. 

Here are a few guides to moving on:

1. Acknowledge the loss: You must first of all acknowledge the fact that the relationship is over, the loved one is truly dead, the loss has been incurred, etc. This is very important because it helps you to live in the present and accept reality. 

2. Pour out your grief: Don’t try to hide your grief, cry it out, spill it out, do all you can to ensure it is not bottled inside. Talk to someone if necessary. Pouring out your grief makes you feel lighter and ready to make new decisions. Justin Timberlake said “Cry me a river, build a bridge, and get over it.” Don’t blame yourself unnecessarily,even where you are at fault, scold yourself and free yourself. 
3. Face Reality: You then need to face reality. Accept the fact that your spouse or partner is gone. Can you go it alone or do you need a new partner? The loss has been incurred, how do you start all over again? What mistakes did you make in the past relationship? What are the lessons from the broken relationship? 
4. Give yourself to others: Sometimes it is helpful to get involved in some volunteer works before making new decisions,especially when a loved one has been lost. You may volunteer to help widows, orphans, homeless, etc. Doing so helps you to see the hurts of others, and you can provide comfort from the comfort you have received. 
5. Make new decisions: Don’t stay down in the trenches forever. When the war is over, soldiers leave the trenches and get back to strategy room. Don’t remain in limbo, it is time to make new decisions. Learn from the past, but don’t let it color your vision of the future. Opportunities come in different shapes and forms. 

6. Enjoy life: Enjoy your new life and live in the present. The past is gone, the present is all yours and the future awaits you. Don’t let the memories of the past blind you from enjoying the beauty of the moment. Remember you only live once. 
Finally, the time between each of these phases differs depending on the events, strengths of those involved and circumstances. It is just necessary to know when to move on. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning! 

We often suspend doing some good works because of some sense of inadequacy. We postpone writing our books, singing our songs, visiting the orphanages, taking up a community work, etc, not because we don’t want to do it but because we feel we are not fully prepared yet. And so days crawl into weeks and the weeks grow into months and before we realise it years have gone and the relevance of those good deeds is no more there. Sounds familiar? 
This is a struggle almost everybody goes through. We must understand that some strengths will not be revealed until a demand is placed on them, and demand will only come in the place of action. There is a potential energy (energy at rest) in each of us waiting to be activated into kinetic energy (energy in motion). This potential energy can only be activated in the process of movement. Until you take the first step you can’t see the next step. But because we want to see the entire step before we launch out, we often miss out on great opportunities to be a blessing. 
Stop waiting to see the entire step, you are adequately equipped for that step. Take that step and the puzzle will begin to take shape. Our lives are sometimes like a puzzle, until you take the first or second piece of puzzle, you may not be able to figure out the puzzle. 
This is why you should be at the ‘Step Out of the Confines of Comfort’ seminar. Happening on 22nd October. It is designed to activate that potential energy. See you there. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning.  

We are often trapped in the confines of our safety, familiar environment, familiar people, or jobs and become so used to such that we limit our growth potential. 
Even as a nation, we became so used to petrodollars such that when the bubble burst, we were caught off-guard and literally left stranded. We overstayed in the confines of a mono-economy. 
Many of us have plateaued when there are still more mountains to conquer. Many of us are afraid of taking steps beyond the known into the unknown. We have become victims of self-imprisonment in the worlds we created for ourselves. 
It is time to break all chains of limitations and leave those confinements holding us back. Your full potential is outside of where you are now. Until you reach out for the sky, you can’t touch stars. 
Break out and breakforth. Let us make it a date at the ‘Step Out of the Confines of Comfort’ seminar on 22nd October. You will experience a transformation. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning! 

Another way through which we look up to others is through reading about them or watching their biographies or autobiographies in films. In other words, what we read and watch on TV have a great impact on our mind and eventually translate to our actions. 
What kind of books do you read? Are they books that edify you, increase your knowledge and understanding, make you more intelligent? What kind of programs do you watch on the TV? Where do children learn some strange dance steps? Mostly from what they see their friends doing and what they see on TV. Just as you censor what your children watch or read, you must censor what you watch or read too. 
Whether you accept it or not, you are directly and indirectly influenced by what you read or watch. Take care to censor what you read or watch, if you truly desire to be great. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning! 

Everybody is a reflection of some others. Most of our thought patterns, habits and actions are picked from someone or some people who we look up to. We are both directly and indirectly influenced by the behaviour of people around us and even sometimes those far from us, but who we deeply respect. We are also influenced by what we read or see, but we will stay on who we look up to today. 
It is thus important to check those who are influencing you directly and indirectly. Are they influencing you positively or otherwise? If you are struggling with some negative habits, you may need to first check for direct and indirect reinforcements of such habits. It may be something you have seen in a close friend or even your parents or siblings. Until you deal with the influencer, you may not be able to change that habit. 
If you want to build good habits and drop bad ones, surround yourself with those who have those good habits and distance yourself from those with the bad habits. If those with the bad habits are unavoidable, then you have to take on the challenge of helping them to change. 
The people you look up to can determine who you become, you therefore need to see that you are looking up to the right people. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning! 
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