Managing Your Mind For Success

Still distilling the nuggets from the last ‘Unleash the Giants’ Seminar. In the session led by Mr Kelvin Otung with the topic “Managing Your Mind for Success”, he explored three areas;

1. Defining Success

2. Understanding the Mind

3. Managing the Mind

Success means different things to different people. For some it is material acquisition. For some it is how high you climb on the career ladder. He however warned that if you have to make huge trade offs to achieve any of these, then that is not success. In his words, “if you are making tons of money but are still unhappy, you haven’t embraced the fact that incredibly successful businesses often carry a heavy personal price.”

So find what makes you happy and impacts more people. Finding what motivates you is the first step to success.

He defined the Mind as the Seat of Consciousness. Man is made up of the Spirit (infinite personality – subconscious realm), the Soul or Mind (invisible personality – conscious realm) and the Body (physical personality – experiential realm).

Understanding every part of our being and gaining mastery by bringing to balance our physical and spiritual experiences in our realm of consciousness gives us the power to rule our world and become successful.

The Mind is made up of three components, Will, Emotions and Intellect. Of these three, Emotion is the most powerful and your success depends on the mastery of your emotion.

According to him, managing your mind requires some emotional intelligence with four basic domains; self awareness, social awareness, self management and relationship management.

He warned of mind’s greatest distraction, Pleasure. The fear of the past and the uncertainty of the future are known to be the drivers of the minds instability; however the real distraction of the mind is pleasure.

He concluded that being able to persuade the mind to do things that are right even if they do not give us feelings of pleasure, is the way forward.

So start paying attention to your definition of success, your mind, your emotions and how you manage your emotions. We will round up this distillation process next week.

Good morning and have a great week.

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Thinking Beyond Now

Great morning to you readers. Trust your weekend went well. Remember we get what we put into life.

In continuation of nuggets from the last ‘Unleash the Giants’ seminar. I will be sharing nuggets from my session.

We started by discussing Lord Luggard’s description of Nigerians in his books ‘The Dual Mandate’ published in 1926 and how it sadly still aptly fits us 92 years after. Some of the excerpts are:

“In character and temperament, the typical African of this race-type is a happy, thriftless, excitable person. Lacking in self control, discipline, and foresight…”

“His thoughts are concentrated on the events and feelings of the moment, and he suffers little from the apprehension for the future, or grief for the past…”

“He lacks the power of organization, and is conspicuously deficient in the management and control alike of men or business. He loves the display of power, but fails to realize its responsibility …”

We then proceeded to discuss some of the thought processes or mentalities responsible for this. These are:

1. Consumption Mentality: This is a Esau Mentality. Consuming rather Conserving. Common with individuals and in government.

2. Entitlement Mentality: The Prodigal Son Mentality. Focusing on the benefits, perks and privileges that come with positions or offices without actually adding value to the position or office.

3. Immediate Gratification Mentality: Craves for immediate satisfaction of desires even if it will be harmful.

4. Win the Battle Mentality: Focusing on fighting small battles and losing focus on the war. This thinking pattern favors small gains rather than focusing on the greater picture. Jostling for jobs or contracts that take you off your core areas of strengths.

5. Winner Takes All Mentality: This is a zero sum mentality. ‘I win you lose kind’ of approach. This thinking pattern is responsible for some of the inconsistencies and discontinuity in government policies once there is a change in political party.

So we need to start examining ourselves to see which of these apply to us and how we can begin to work on ourselves.

Nigeria can be great again if we all work on ourselves individually. We will continue the distillation of nuggets from the ‘Unleash the Giants’ seminar next week.

Good morning and have a great week.

Adewumi Oni

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Thinking Beyond Now

Great morning to you readers. Trust your weekend went well. Remember we get what we put into life.

In continuation of nuggets from the last ‘Unleash the Giants’ seminar. I will be sharing nuggets from my session.

We started by discussing Lord Luggard’s description of Nigerians in his books ‘The Dual Mandate’ published in 1926 and how it sadly still aptly fits us 92 years after. Some of the excerpts are:

“In character and temperament, the typical African of this race-type is a happy, thriftless, excitable person. Lacking in self control, discipline, and foresight…”

“His thoughts are concentrated on the events and feelings of the moment, and he suffers little from the apprehension for the future, or grief for the past…”

“He lacks the power of organization, and is conspicuously deficient in the management and control alike of men or business. He loves the display of power, but fails to realize its responsibility …”

We then proceeded to discuss some of the thought processes or mentalities responsible for this. These are:

1. Consumption Mentality: This is a Esau Mentality. Consuming rather Conserving. Common with individuals and in government.

2. Entitlement Mentality: The Prodigal Son Mentality. Focusing on the benefits, perks and privileges that come with positions or offices without actually adding value to the position or office.

3. Immediate Gratification Mentality: Craves for immediate satisfaction of desires even if it will be harmful.

4. Win the Battle Mentality: Focusing on fighting small battles and losing focus on the war. This thinking pattern favors small gains rather than focusing on the greater picture. Jostling for jobs or contracts that take you off your core areas of strengths.

5. Winner Takes All Mentality: This is a zero sum mentality. ‘I win you lose kind’ of approach. This thinking pattern is responsible for some of the inconsistencies and discontinuity in government policies once there is a change in political party.

So we need to start examining ourselves to see which of these apply to us and how we can begin to work on ourselves.

Nigeria can be great again if we all work on ourselves individually. We will continue the distillation of nuggets from the ‘Unleash the Giants’ seminar next week.

Good morning and have a great week.

Adewumi Oni

08028395824

09095321147

wumioni@yahoo.com

http://www.adewumioni.com

Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/adewumi.oni

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Leading the Change for Next Generation

We had a great session on Saturday at the Unleash the Giants Seminar, and we were privileged to have a member of the House of Representatives speak to us. He spoke about “Leading the Change for Next Generation”.

Key points in his presentation are:

1. Be a leader within your own sphere of influence. Being a leader means having influence on those around you, and not just any influence but positive influence. This can be achieved by being very good at what you do.

To summarise his presentation, there are three things necessary for a leader and the next generation. Vision, Capacity and Character. With references to the Bible, he pointed out that without a clear vision of where you are going, you will end up nowhere. You must have a mental image of where you are going and plans on how to get there.

Also, he emphasised having capacity, being skilled at what you do. The world is in dire need of skilled people.

And to cap it character is key, especially in the age where we seem to have thrown morals to the wind. We need to have the fear of God, hate deceit, imbibe the spirit of fairness and justice.

We cannot continue to build systems and structures on wrong values and hope to move forward as a people or nation. To save this generation and future generation, we must come together as a people with a common vision, develop our various capacities and restore those values our forefathers were known for.

The more of the likes of Honorable Olajide Olatunbosun we have in the National Assembly and government generally, the better for the nation and the world. Thank you for taking time out to speak to us Sir.

We will look at nuggets from the other facilitators in the course of the week.

Have a great week.

Adewumi Oni

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These Killings Must Stop!

Why have our land become killing fields? Why do the earth beneath us delights so much in drinking blood of innocent people? Why are dreams and destinies being truncated even before they are formed?

And why have we become so used to these killings? Why do we act as if all is well? Even if our leaders have lost every sense of concern and responsibility to provide security for the governed, should we also close our eyes to these killings?

Benue State, Plateau State, Gombe State, Adamawa State, Kaduna State have all become killing fields. As if the menace of Boko Haram is not enough, unknown herdsmen (or whatever name they are called), maraud villages leaving sorrow, tears and blood in their wake. It was “Unknown Soldiers” years back, now it is “Unknown Herdsmen”.

Yet the nation’s security apparatuses all converged at the ruling party’s National Congress while people were being maimed in their sleeps. Isn’t it ironic that it is this same set of people these leaders will go back to with the intention of canvassing for votes.

The man in everyone of us dies daily because we refuse to voice out against these killings. Can we begin to shout this out on all social media? Can we deafen the ears of this government with our voice of disapproval of these killings and the government inability to secure people’s lives.

While we watch the Super Eagles at the World Cup, while we celebrate our individual successes and post our pictures on social media, let us remember that there is a child out there who has been rendered fatherless, and there is a woman out there who has been widowed suddenly, and a family out there who has been rendered homeless.

Let us cry out in protests to the government and also in prayer to God, maybe our cries will attract some attention.

May the souls of the departed in Plateau, Adamawa, and elsewhere find rest with their Maker.

Have a great week.

Adewumi Oni

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True Fathers

In light of another Father’s Day, marked yesterday, I believe it is necessary to share some lessons on Fatherhood, so that we don’t miss the essence of marking such a day.

Fathers are very important in any society. Their presence or absence in a society determines the quality and longevity of such society.

True fathers are builders. They mould characters, form destinies, build people and affect generations. As a father, if you are acting irresponsibly, just be sure that some destinies around you, whether connected to you or not might follow your footsteps, creating more chaos in an already chaotic society. So live responsibly. Dress responsibly. Speak responsibly. Manage your habitat responsibly. Lead responsibly. I saw a cartoon of a five year old boy asking a grown man to pull up his pants (deliberately sagged). The true Father in this case is the little boy.

True fathers are mentors. They deliberately cultivate and nurture others to their full potentials. It was Winston Churchill who said “We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.” Your life is not measured by how much you have, but how many lives you have touched. Stop the vanities.

True fathers leave inheritance for their children and grand children. We live in an age where parents become burden on their children once they complete their education. Yes, you should eat the fruits of your labour, but don’t eat the fruits with the tree! You can leave either material wealth or good name for your children and wards. Don’t leave debts and bad legacy for them.

True Fathers sacrifice a lot to see their children, wards and mentees achieve their dreams. The ‘Father of all’ sacrificed His begotten Son, so that He might have many more sons. Sacrifice for your children now so as not to become the sacrifice later.

True Fathers bless. Always pronounce blessings on your children and wards. Stop the curses and negative confessions. Speak life into their lives through early morning blessings and words of encouragement.

True fathers corrects in love. Don’t withhold the stick when it should be applied, but use it with love. When you have to punish, let them know the reason for the punishment and the expected result from such punishment.

True fathers listen. No one knows it all except God. Be willing to listen to others and hear their views. Even God said let us reason together, how can you be the all-knowing?

True fathers take responsibility for their actions. Don’t bear a child you cannot raise. Don’t have sex if you are not ready to be a father. Don’t be a seed dispenser, be a life nurturer.

As we relish the memory of the just concluded Father’s Day Celebration, let us begin to weigh ourselves on the scale of True Fatherhood. The better we are as Fathers, the better our world would be.

Have a great week ahead.

Adewumi Oni

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Be Careful With Your Words

We live in times where nerves are on edges, temper very short, pressure extremely high, and emotional threshold stretched beyond limit.

Globally depression and suicide rates have gone up. Both poor and rich, young and old are taking their lives. Who would have thought Anthony Bourdain of CNN would die of suicide!

It is therefore important that you mind the way you talk to people. Mind the way you address people. Mind the kind of remarks you make. Even your comments on social media should be civil. Argue with civility. Address issues and not personalities.

Your words may be the last straw that will break the camel’s back and push someone to end his life. Your word can be the trigger to push someone into insanity. You can’t joke carelessly anymore.

There are so many hurt people around us. The fact that they are smiling and smartly dressed doesn’t mean they are not hurting, so be kind with your words. Let your conversation be seasoned with grace that it may bring life to the hearers. Don’t kill with your builds.

Also make efforts to reach out to others. Sow a seed into someone’s life, the effect may be life changing. You may just be the life saver for that depressed soul. Let us reach out to one another. We all need some comforting. Let us work towards reducing this suicide rate.

Don’t build life around yourself alone. Lend helping hands to strangers. Be kind to people. Be a life saver and not a killer.

Have a great day and week ahead. To our Muslim brethren, happy Eid El Fitri in advance!

Have a productive week.

Adewumi Oni

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