Power of Self Discipline – Importance

It is almost impossible to have a successful marriage without self discipline. Successful relationship thrives on self discipline.

In marriage, it takes discipline to keep playing one’s part regardless of convenience. It requires a lot of discipline to stay true to marital vow, when you are no longer in the mood under which you made the vow.

You will always meet someone better than your spouse, maybe prettier, richer or more intelligent. No matter who you marry, your loyalty will always be tested and there will always be reasons to let go of your spouse.

Marriage reveals the weaknesses in your spouse. You begin to see the real person behind the man or woman you married. You will sometimes question your decision in choosing your spouse, but self discipline will help you to overlook and stay committed at making your spouse a better person.

One of the main reasons for high rate of divorce today is lack of Self Discipline. Abusive husbands lack self discipline and cannot restrain themselves from assaulting their wives. A man who cannot exercise control over himself is like a city without fence, anyone and anything can enter.

Your mood or emotion should never control you, you must always learn to be in charge of your life. Tame your tongue, bridle your anger, put a leash on your body. The things that break homes are not big issues, they are usually small issues that accumulate over time. Learn to deal with every open wound before it becomes a big sore.

It is not everytime you say things as it comes to you, some things are only acceptable when presented nicely. It is called tact. Be disciplined enough to weigh and frame your words before utterance. A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.
Proverbs 25:11 KJV.

Put your ego aside and apologise, and not only when you are at fault. Nothing thrives in a state of disharmony, so even if it means swallowing your pride to make peace, do so, the end will always justify you. Forgive and let go, not forgiving will harm you more.

Be a supportive wife. Do not shift all the burden on your husband when you can help. Be economically active as a wife, you must always have a source of income no matter how small. Invest in your home, do not spend all on unnecessary frivolities.

Resolve your issues between yourselves , as much as possible, avoid third party interference. Let God be your umpire and let His words be your guide.

Good morning and have a fruitful week.

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Power of Self Discipline – Importance

It takes discipline to retain wealth. Some things are easy to get and hard to lose, e.g sexually transmitted diseases. Some things are also hard to get and easy to lose e.g riches, fame and integrity. If you are not well disciplined you will lose money within minutes and one mistake can damage your integrity for a lifetime.

Good Financial management requires a lot of discipline. You must not be given to impulse spending. You cannot be rich if you keep competing with everyone. All ‘wannabes’ hardly become anything. Do not live your life to be like the Joneses, you will end up being poor.

When you spend you miss an opportunity to grow your money. When you save or invest, you create opportunity to make more money.

Rules of Spending

1. Have a budget, whether weekly or monthly and follow your budget.

2. Never spend all your income

3. Spend on others, it always come back to you.

4. Do not spend in advance of income, it blocks your ability to take opportunities.

5. Keep to planned spendings, do not be impulsive.

Rules of Savings

1. Save for precautionary motive (for the rainy day).

2. Save for speculative motive (investments, mutual funds, treasury bills, fixed deposits, etc

3. Keep your money away from ‘Get Rich Quick Schemes ‘. There is no easy way to get rich, it requires time and hardwork.

4. Do not use all your savings to finance investment opportunities if you can borrow.

Rules for Borrowing

1. Only borrow to finance asset acquisition or income yielding opportunities.

2. Ensure your income is at east three times the amount needed to service your debt obligations.

3. Ensure you have Savings at least twice as much as your borrowing.

4. Borrowing to finance consumption is a sign of poor planning and will only keep you further indebted.

No matter how small your income is, have a plan for it. Increase your income earning capacity by improving yourself through reading, attending trainings and seminars, following mentors and consistently raising your bars.

Stay financially disciplined and have a great week.

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Power of Self Discipline – Importance

Self Discipline helps to maintain a spiritual schedule. It helps to have a regular time for meditation, praying or fasting. It is unarguable that the spiritual determines the reality we face on daily basis. A disciplined person who takes charge of his spiritual will no doubt be in charge in reality.

It is a pity that a lot of people toy with their spiritual life and leave things to chance. Success hardly happens by chance, it is a product of discipline, preparation and opportunity. If you are not disciplined, you will be sleeping when you are supposed to be awake in prayer. If you are not disciplined, you will be feasting when you are supposed to be fasting.

Infact, people who lack spiritual discipline are easy preys for their enemies. Samson’s lack of discipline made him an easy prey on the laps of Delilah. There is also the story of how one of the late military rulers in Nigeria became an easy prey in the hands of women of easy virtues.

You cannot afford to be careless with your spiritual life. It is the foundation for everything in your life. Many have embarked on journeys that took their lives because they lacked discipline. You do not have to attend every function. You do not have to honour every invitation. You cannot be everything to everybody, you will die prematurely trying to do so.

“He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.” Proverbs 25:28 KJV

Be disciplined with your utterance. Do not kill yourself with your declarations. Death and Life lies in the tongue. Declare Peace to your days. Speak life into your days. Do not allow reality determine your utterance, let your utterance determine your reality!

Have a great week ahead. Peace!

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Power of Self Discipline – Importance

A life that is run without checks and balances is akin to a vehicle without brake system, sooner or later, there will be collision. You cannot live successfully without self discipline.

“The Price of Discipline is always less than the pain of regret.” – Nido Qubein.

Self-discipline helps in every area of life. In lifestyle, eating habit, academics, spiritual development, financial management, marital success, leadership, and national development, to mention a few.

Some of the health challenges we face are results of a poorly disciplined life. You cannot spend all day sitting down watching TV or working and expect a perfectly functioning body. Free circulation of blood in your body will be impeded and this can bring about ailments like high blood pressure and heart related disease. You must train yourself to have regular exercise.

Unhealthy eating habit can damage your health and physique. Uncontrollable appetite could be a sign of lack of self discipline. You should not allow your body to dictate to you all the time. You have been given a mind to control the desires of the body. Choose what to eat and stop eating everything you choose! Set time limits for when to eat to avoid overworking you body metabolism.

Outstanding students are usually deliberate students. They deliberately commit themselves to hours of reading and studying. They constantly deny themselves of pleasures and focus on the prize of being the best. Pleasure and Prize hardly go together. You must choose one. If you want to have all the pleasure, you can not aim to win the prize at the same time. This does not mean you should not have relaxation time. The key thing is to have a disciplined schedule of studying and relaxing!

The more you are willing to defer gratification and pleasure, the more disciplined you become, and the easier it gets to achieve your goals. The reason for several aborted ‘New Year Resolutions’ is the lack of discipline to follow through. Self discipline helps you to follow through your goals and plans. Stick to plan!

God did not make mistake by setting order for day and night, the aim is to have orderliness. A disciplined life is an orderly life. Check your life!

Barka De Sallah to all our Muslim brethren. Have a beautiful Sallah celebration.

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The Power of Self-Discipline – Introduction

Let me start by first saying why I believe this topic is important and deserves to be treated as a series. We all struggles with certain habits and schedules.

Personally, I struggle with things like keeping to a gym exercise, starting and finishing a book, spending less time on phone, even completing medication dosage, etc. I also believe a lot of people out there have several struggles like these, some even stronger and of more dire consequences than the ones I have mentioned.

I believe, behind all of these struggles is the deficit of the virtue of Self Discipline. So I am hoping that this series will help a lot of us to overcome some habits, weaknesses and become better persons in every area of our life.

So let us define Self Discipline and put it in proper perspective.

Self Discipline simply means ability to exercise control over oneself. In other words you can say self discipline means self control. It is the ability to exercise restrain on one’s thoughts, actions, words and attitudes, with the aim of always doing what is right.

It is the ability to do what is right even when it is not convenient to do so, or when there is no one around us to applaud or praise us for doing the right thing.

It is a very important virtue for anyone who desires to succeed in life. The absence of self discipline is behind the preponderance of many vices and ills in our society today.

As a matter of fact, the more your self discipline index, the higher your chances of succeeding in life. Successful people have mastered the art of self discipline and they use it to hone their skills or gifts till the gifts become part of them. Yes they may be born with the gifts, but without self discipline in the area of consistent practice and sharpening of the gifts, they would not get far with the gifts.

Even the Bible recognises this fact in the book of Proverbs. “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.” Proverbs 25:28 KJV. I am sure there are similar thoughts in the Quran and other spiritual books.

It takes Self Discipline to manage wealth and retain riches. Some people cannot control their spending, no matter how much they earn, they keep getting broke and even end up in debts. “A gracious woman retaineth honour: and strong men retain riches.” Proverbs 11:16 KJV

Self Discipline is a process and not a destination, so we must be careful not to assume we will one day become fully self disciplined. It is a daily process which helps us to form better habits, better character and ultimately better destiny.

Self Discipline requires paying a lot of sacrifices, denying oneself of so many pleasures and is actually a painful process, but it yields a lot of pleasure in the long term. For example, a student who has an exam to write would have to deny himself of the fun of watching TV, staying on the internet, or playing football before the exam. He would have to invest quality time into reading, studying and attending tutorials ahead of the exams.

In essence, Self Discipline causes short term pains but results in long term gains. It is thus a game of choosing pain over gain in the present, so as to avoid pain in the future.

Self Discipline is thus very important as a subject and this is why I have taken time to lay this foundation and also why we will be spending some time dealing with this issue while setting some challenges for ourselves during the series.

In readiness for the next discussion in this series, I want you to sit down, think and write down areas where you think deficit of self discipline has been affecting you. We will set some challenges next week as we continue in the series.

Have a self disciplined week ahead. Cheers!

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Power of Self-Discipline

Good morning dear followers. Trust you had a restful weekend.

I have quite a number of things on my mind this morning, but the ones burning most are the Power of Self-Discipline and the Danger of Single Parenting.

We will start a series on each, starting with Self-Discipline next week. Please do not miss any of these series, as there will also be room for discussion and experience sharing.

Till then, have a great week.

Adewumi Oni

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Check the Foundation

Every building has a foundation. The higher a building is, the deeper its foundation. One of the reasons why a Bamboo can grow very tall is because of the depth of its foundation.

Whatever you are building, be it career, business or marriage, ensure you get the foundation right, otherwise it will not stand the test of time. It must be built on godly values, principles and the fundamentals.

You must understand that the things that last are those things built on godly values. Values like Truth, Love, Selflessness, Integrity, Purpose. If your business is built on godly values, it will endure the test of time. If your relationship is built on truth it will last.

The Bible talks about Patriarch Abraham in Hebrews 11:10, that in his journey to the Promised Land, he kept looking out for a city with foundations and whose builder is God. “For he looked for a city which hath foundations, whose builder and maker is God.”

Before you go into any relationship, whether business or marital, check the foundation of the would-be partner. Who is his/her builder? What values does he/she hold dear? If the foundation is deceit, falsehood, abuse, troubled childhood, material things, I am afraid you might have no future with the person because his or her future is not even assured.

Don’t build anything on falsehood, it will collapse sooner or later. Don’t shed blood for power, position or wealth, you will pay for it later with your blood or that of your loved ones. Don’t lay a faulty foundation, whatever you built on a faulty foundation will crack sooner or later.

Give your children or wards the right foundation. Train them up in the right way so they will not become a burden on you and the society.

Always check the foundation. Do background check. Google for more information. Pray about it. Watch it for a while. You will save yourself a lot of heartache doing so. Always look for people or relationships whose builder and maker is God.

Have a great day and week ahead.

Adewumi Oni

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