Power of Self Discipline – Importance

It is almost impossible to have a successful marriage without self discipline. Successful relationship thrives on self discipline.

In marriage, it takes discipline to keep playing one’s part regardless of convenience. It requires a lot of discipline to stay true to marital vow, when you are no longer in the mood under which you made the vow.

You will always meet someone better than your spouse, maybe prettier, richer or more intelligent. No matter who you marry, your loyalty will always be tested and there will always be reasons to let go of your spouse.

Marriage reveals the weaknesses in your spouse. You begin to see the real person behind the man or woman you married. You will sometimes question your decision in choosing your spouse, but self discipline will help you to overlook and stay committed at making your spouse a better person.

One of the main reasons for high rate of divorce today is lack of Self Discipline. Abusive husbands lack self discipline and cannot restrain themselves from assaulting their wives. A man who cannot exercise control over himself is like a city without fence, anyone and anything can enter.

Your mood or emotion should never control you, you must always learn to be in charge of your life. Tame your tongue, bridle your anger, put a leash on your body. The things that break homes are not big issues, they are usually small issues that accumulate over time. Learn to deal with every open wound before it becomes a big sore.

It is not everytime you say things as it comes to you, some things are only acceptable when presented nicely. It is called tact. Be disciplined enough to weigh and frame your words before utterance. A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.
Proverbs 25:11 KJV.

Put your ego aside and apologise, and not only when you are at fault. Nothing thrives in a state of disharmony, so even if it means swallowing your pride to make peace, do so, the end will always justify you. Forgive and let go, not forgiving will harm you more.

Be a supportive wife. Do not shift all the burden on your husband when you can help. Be economically active as a wife, you must always have a source of income no matter how small. Invest in your home, do not spend all on unnecessary frivolities.

Resolve your issues between yourselves , as much as possible, avoid third party interference. Let God be your umpire and let His words be your guide.

Good morning and have a fruitful week.

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Power of Self Discipline – Importance

A life that is run without checks and balances is akin to a vehicle without brake system, sooner or later, there will be collision. You cannot live successfully without self discipline.

“The Price of Discipline is always less than the pain of regret.” – Nido Qubein.

Self-discipline helps in every area of life. In lifestyle, eating habit, academics, spiritual development, financial management, marital success, leadership, and national development, to mention a few.

Some of the health challenges we face are results of a poorly disciplined life. You cannot spend all day sitting down watching TV or working and expect a perfectly functioning body. Free circulation of blood in your body will be impeded and this can bring about ailments like high blood pressure and heart related disease. You must train yourself to have regular exercise.

Unhealthy eating habit can damage your health and physique. Uncontrollable appetite could be a sign of lack of self discipline. You should not allow your body to dictate to you all the time. You have been given a mind to control the desires of the body. Choose what to eat and stop eating everything you choose! Set time limits for when to eat to avoid overworking you body metabolism.

Outstanding students are usually deliberate students. They deliberately commit themselves to hours of reading and studying. They constantly deny themselves of pleasures and focus on the prize of being the best. Pleasure and Prize hardly go together. You must choose one. If you want to have all the pleasure, you can not aim to win the prize at the same time. This does not mean you should not have relaxation time. The key thing is to have a disciplined schedule of studying and relaxing!

The more you are willing to defer gratification and pleasure, the more disciplined you become, and the easier it gets to achieve your goals. The reason for several aborted ‘New Year Resolutions’ is the lack of discipline to follow through. Self discipline helps you to follow through your goals and plans. Stick to plan!

God did not make mistake by setting order for day and night, the aim is to have orderliness. A disciplined life is an orderly life. Check your life!

Barka De Sallah to all our Muslim brethren. Have a beautiful Sallah celebration.

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The Man (1)

Scientifically, a man is the male gender of the ‘homo sapiens’ specie in the ‘homo’ genus.  A man has distinct features from the female version of homo sapiens  (woman). He is stronger, more aggressive, wilder and inclined to use logical reasoning as opposed to woman who uses more of intuitive reasoning. 

According to the Bible, the man was created first and placed in the garden of Eden to tender it. To prevent loneliness and being overburdened, God made the man an helpmeet called the woman. The man upon creation was given a responsibility to dress and keep the Garden.

Essentially, man is a creature of responsibilities, and all men have one garden or the other to dress and keep. The garden could be your family, your community, your unit at your place of work, your state,  or province, or region or nation.

If you are a man, you are responsible to keep your own garden. It is therefore important to understand this critical role of keeping, maintaining and fostering the growth of the garden. 

It is equally important to understand that being a man is more than having a six pack figure, more than wearing fancy looking beards or hair, more than wearing the latest designer or driving the latest car, more than having strings of women under your control. Being a man is responsibility and that responsibility is enormous. 

In this series, we will look at who qualifies to be a man, the man as a Gardener, his garden and how he is to relate with his Creator and the woman. 

After this series, we will do same study on the woman, and at the end of it all, my hope is that we will all understand our roles better and become more responsible. 

Have a great week ahead. 

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Stop the Blame Game And Play Your Part (3)

One of the major roles we all need to play in restoring our great nation is to value and pursue Excellence. We have become a nation of mediocres. We do things half-heartedly, we work just to get by and not to be the best. Very few people have personal vision, they just flow with the tide of life. Giving our best is now seen as trying to show off, our society even celebrates mediocrity. 

Gone are those days of essay and quiz competitions. Gone are those days of scholarship for best students across all levels of education. We are comfortable celebrating the music artistes and entertainers. Nothing wrong with this in itself, but when we neglect education and give more priority to entertainment, we are literally setting ourselves up. No wonder Joint Admission and Matriculation Board (JAMB) lowered cut off marks to 120 and 100 for Universities and Polytechnics! 

It has become an imperative to take Excellence as the minimum standard in every facet of our society. You must teach your children to be at their best in whatever they do, and also have a reward system for their performance. 

In our work space, meritocracy should be placed above racial, tribal or religious sentiments. We cannot continue to build a nation on quota system, we will only keep producing mediocres. 

Our society should start frowning at shorttermism and condemn every form of indolence, brigandry and extortion. Our traditional rulers must start playing their roles as promoters of Excellence in their domain, and this must be both in their words, actions and intentions. Stop giving titles in exchange for money, give titles to men and women of exemplary character and accomplishments. 

Our religious bodies should stop playing to the gallery and stop the competition of putting up structures. They should concentrate more on building people. It is said that ‘the child you refuse to train will eventually sell the house you build.’ Building structures to house followers who have no internal and external structure is a waste of heaven’s resources. Little wonder the rate of crime and social malaise is on the rise as the number of religious centers are increasing. 

We need to start rebuilding again, and let Excellence be our watchword as we rebuild this great nation. God will not come down to solve our problems, He answers through people. Be one of His answers for the nation. 

Have a great week ahead. 
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Be Open to Changes

Success is a journey and not a destination, and there are many routes on the way. Sometimes you will have to make a detour, other times you will have to even change the route, or even change the vehicle. 

One of the reasons for failure in life is being fixated with an idea to the point of becoming insensitive to divine nudgings. The truth is that more often than not, our plans are usually different from what God has in stock for us. His plans and thoughts are far higher than ours. 

Even when we think we know His plans, we may not not the way. This is why it is important to be opened to changes and be ready to glide with the wind of change. I am not talking about change that takes us from the moral path, I am referring to those changes in career paths, business choices or ventures, even locations. 

No wonder John 3:8 says “The wind bloweth where it listeth, and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it cometh, and whither it goeth: so is every one that is born of the Spirit.” 

For us to enjoy our race on this side of the divide, we must learn to trust the guiding hands of God, even when we don’t understand where He is leading us. This doesn’t in any way mean you shouldn’t have to plan or goal. On the contrary, you should draw up your plan but be ready to readjust when necessary. 
Remember that the steps of a good man are ordered of the Lord because He delights in His ways. 
Good morning and remain blessed. 
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ARE YOUR CHILDREN SEXY?

​​A memo to 21st century parents, written by Igbafe Oluseye
Few weeks ago, I was at the local airport and as I waited in the departure lounge, I noticed there were many children roaming about but it was understandable since it was summer holiday.
One other thing I noticed was the way most of the children were dressed. Most of them, especially the girls, were dressed in bum shorts, halter necks, cut off jeans, etc. The clothes in themselves weren’t the issue per se; it was the overall look of the children that had me bothered. That was definitely not the first time I noticed it.
A few months before, I had taken my kids to a birthday party and found myself in what could easily have been a night club for kids. Scanty clothing such as tight or very short clothes, bum shorts, long weaves, etc, seemed to be the dress code. I noticed my son glancing around, probably wondering, “What in God’s world are these other children wearing?” Or something like that. Not long after, the kids were called out to dance to the hit songs of the season – these songs in my opinion should be rated PG 16. 4 – 6 year olds trooped to the dance floor, miming the sexually explicit songs and gyrating their bodies in the most sensual manner. 
They could have given Beyonce a run for her money. They ran their hands over their bodies, shook their booties hard while their parents cheered them on. The boys had their upper shirts unbuttoned and rapped along perfectly to gangsta raps while doing flawless break dance. Those who danced like actual children where shooed off the dance floor while the lewd ones were cheered on. As I watched, my child stared out of this circle looking longingly at the others dancing. I knew it was time to leave.
As we left, we went to an eatery where I bought them ice cream and gently explained to them the concept of decency and dancing with decorum. Another time, at a game arcade for kids, I ran

into a lady who had made-up her kids’ faces like they were mannequins for Tara or Mac beauty products. Their skirts were so tight, that running up and down the slide was uncomfortable for them. So the question is, why are we sexualizing our kids? Why does your 4, 6 or 9 year old girl have to look like a chick? Why does she have to be hot or sexy? Should your 8 year old son go around with a comb in his hair and his pants sagged almost to his ankles?
If your child wears bum shorts out of the house at age 3, why should she be expected to wear longer ones at 15? If she wears 2 rings and 12 bangles at 6, why won’t she pierce a second ear hole at 17 and her bellybutton at 19? Why won’t your son pierce his own ear at 15? Are you setting your children up to be immodest and indecent? What trend are you starting them on? That all these are fashionable or trendy doesn’t mean it’s ok. What happened to children wearing dresses?
Children can look very nice and decent, they can be well covered and still look good. In this age, when children are being abused. Is it wise to make your child an object of anyone’s sexual attention? When I hear some children belt out sexually explicit lyrics, I ask myself how they became exposed to this songs!
As a parent, you can’t play the CD of such songs and not expect your children to pick them up; the same goes for watching Mtv Base, Channel O, etc with your children. Studies have shown that children exposed to a high level of sexually explicit information tend to become sexually active early. Is that your goal as a parent?
Being a parent involves sacrifice. You will need to avoid listening to such music where your children are. Most of those lyrics demean women and teach your daughter that she’s just a sex toy and her body is for squeezing. It teaches the boys that money is everything and women are things to be used to satisfy their primal urges.
WRITTEN BY 

IGBAFE OLUSEYE

Are you Grounded? 

​Are you grounded and running out of fuel? Tired of living? Frustrated with life and everybody? Seems like life has been most unfair to you? Nothing is working in your favour, in fact it seems you are always getting the short end of the stick. 
Giving the current economic downturn, the rising cost of living, and the attendant effects on every aspect of life, one is bound to be frustrated and be on the edge. Businesses are struggling to make it and families are feeling the crunch. The government is struggling and seems befuddled. 
The natural reactions to all these should be venting out, frustration, and anger, but all these can’t solve any problem. Suicide is not the solution, lashing out at your spouse or children will only aggravate the situation. If you also keep looking up to the government for solutions, you will add to your disappointment. 
So where do we look up to? This is the time to look up more than ever. This is the time to look up to God. I am not asking you to look up to your Pastors or Imams or other Spiritual leaders. A number of them are as perplexed as you are, so they may not be of help. 
 We are in the season when spiritual antennas must be very sensitive to the leading of God. It is the time to vent your feelings out to God and seek Him earnestly. It is not time to give up because this phase will surely pass, and God will raise new leaders and influences during this storm. 
Rather than give up or do something drastic, connect to heaven’s wavelengths, God is unleashing uncommon transformational ideas and He is looking for tested and trusted hands to trust with end time resources. 
So if you are grounded, it may actually be to your own advantage. Planes need the runway to take off into the sky, likewise being grounded gives you the opportunity to reconnect with heaven. Don’t give up, look up and be encouraged. 
Be on the lookout for a series on Capping the Year. 
Good morning and Stay blessed! 
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