True Fathers

In light of another Father’s Day, marked yesterday, I believe it is necessary to share some lessons on Fatherhood, so that we don’t miss the essence of marking such a day.

Fathers are very important in any society. Their presence or absence in a society determines the quality and longevity of such society.

True fathers are builders. They mould characters, form destinies, build people and affect generations. As a father, if you are acting irresponsibly, just be sure that some destinies around you, whether connected to you or not might follow your footsteps, creating more chaos in an already chaotic society. So live responsibly. Dress responsibly. Speak responsibly. Manage your habitat responsibly. Lead responsibly. I saw a cartoon of a five year old boy asking a grown man to pull up his pants (deliberately sagged). The true Father in this case is the little boy.

True fathers are mentors. They deliberately cultivate and nurture others to their full potentials. It was Winston Churchill who said “We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.” Your life is not measured by how much you have, but how many lives you have touched. Stop the vanities.

True fathers leave inheritance for their children and grand children. We live in an age where parents become burden on their children once they complete their education. Yes, you should eat the fruits of your labour, but don’t eat the fruits with the tree! You can leave either material wealth or good name for your children and wards. Don’t leave debts and bad legacy for them.

True Fathers sacrifice a lot to see their children, wards and mentees achieve their dreams. The ‘Father of all’ sacrificed His begotten Son, so that He might have many more sons. Sacrifice for your children now so as not to become the sacrifice later.

True Fathers bless. Always pronounce blessings on your children and wards. Stop the curses and negative confessions. Speak life into their lives through early morning blessings and words of encouragement.

True fathers corrects in love. Don’t withhold the stick when it should be applied, but use it with love. When you have to punish, let them know the reason for the punishment and the expected result from such punishment.

True fathers listen. No one knows it all except God. Be willing to listen to others and hear their views. Even God said let us reason together, how can you be the all-knowing?

True fathers take responsibility for their actions. Don’t bear a child you cannot raise. Don’t have sex if you are not ready to be a father. Don’t be a seed dispenser, be a life nurturer.

As we relish the memory of the just concluded Father’s Day Celebration, let us begin to weigh ourselves on the scale of True Fatherhood. The better we are as Fathers, the better our world would be.

Have a great week ahead.

Adewumi Oni




Twitter: onadol2010


Be Careful With Your Words

We live in times where nerves are on edges, temper very short, pressure extremely high, and emotional threshold stretched beyond limit.

Globally depression and suicide rates have gone up. Both poor and rich, young and old are taking their lives. Who would have thought Anthony Bourdain of CNN would die of suicide!

It is therefore important that you mind the way you talk to people. Mind the way you address people. Mind the kind of remarks you make. Even your comments on social media should be civil. Argue with civility. Address issues and not personalities.

Your words may be the last straw that will break the camel’s back and push someone to end his life. Your word can be the trigger to push someone into insanity. You can’t joke carelessly anymore.

There are so many hurt people around us. The fact that they are smiling and smartly dressed doesn’t mean they are not hurting, so be kind with your words. Let your conversation be seasoned with grace that it may bring life to the hearers. Don’t kill with your builds.

Also make efforts to reach out to others. Sow a seed into someone’s life, the effect may be life changing. You may just be the life saver for that depressed soul. Let us reach out to one another. We all need some comforting. Let us work towards reducing this suicide rate.

Don’t build life around yourself alone. Lend helping hands to strangers. Be kind to people. Be a life saver and not a killer.

Have a great day and week ahead. To our Muslim brethren, happy Eid El Fitri in advance!

Have a productive week.

Adewumi Oni




Twitter: onadol2010