Vote Wisely

Permit me to talk a bit about politics today, especially in view of next year General Elections in Nigeria. In less than one year from now, we will be casting our votes to decide who represent us at the legislative chambers, our Governors and the President.

Too often in the past, we have voted based on ethnicity, religious sentiments, party affiliation and many other reasons. And all of these reasons do not seem to have helped us in making the right choices, as we get disappointed once the winner gets into office.

It will be foolhardy to vote again in 2019 based on ethnicity, color, religion or party affiliation. While there are no saints anywhere around us, we must still subject our choices to some minimum tests. Some of these are;

1. Sponsors: Who are the sponsors of the candidate? Most candidates will likely dance to the tune of their sponsors.

2. History: What history or precedent does the candidate come with? How experienced is the candidate?

3. Health: How agile, strong and healthy is the candidate? Ailing leaders often make wrong decisions, poor decisions or no decisions.

4. Party Affiliation: What party is the candidate affiliated to? What are the precedents of the party? A leopard cannot change its spots, the color of the Party will always reflect in the leader’s actions.

5. Understanding of Nigeria’s Complexity. Nigeria is a very complex country to manage and the candidates must demonstrate some abilities to manage complexities.

6. Multicultural Influence: how influential is the candidate across tribes , culture and religion?

7. Values: Does the candidate hold any value(s) dear to him or her? Do those values reflect the National values or values that can uplift a nation?

While the place of praying and asking for divine direction should also not be underplayed. We have long been on the journey to becoming a great nation, our choices have over time set us back. We cannot afford to toy with decisions like this any longer.

Get your PVC and vote wisely.

God bless Nigeria.

Adewumi Oni

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Case Study 6 – Religious Bias – (Discussion)

Good morning and trust you had a restful weekend. Sincere apologies for not broadcasting last week, but it helped to get a lot of views on the last case study.

Some opined that David and Fatima should not continue with the relationship because they are from different faith and not necessarily because the parents are not in consent. While some believe if they have the parents consent, they should go ahead.

Here is my view, marriage needs more than love to succeed. Marriage requires love, support from both families, sometimes harmonious religious affiliations, financial stability, stable health and maturity among other things to succeed.

Specifically on religion, there are cases of people from different faith marrying and enjoying their marriages, while there are same faith marriages that have hit the rock. So affinity of faith alone does not guarantee success in marriage.

I am aware that Christians often quote 2 Corinthians 6:14 to support argument against marrying anyone outside the faith. This text needs to be read in context of Apostle Paul discussion. I will also encourage you to read the write up by a brother below. He succinctly explained this.

Hmmmmm, matters of the heart are very delicate and sensitive and must be dealt with or attended to with some serious caution, and especially when they have religious colourations.

I will approach this topic rather systematically with the intent of bringing about a balance in the end.

As a Christian, and a minister of the Gospel of Christ, it would be easily thought that I will give a blanket “disagreement” to the young friends deciding to marry themselves and living their lives together, for better or for the worse.

My considerations will surely come from my understanding of the diversities of the religious influences from both backgrounds of the would be couple.
There are strong spiritual implications when “Marriage” is the case in point. This is not a business relationship or contract that has expiration dates or duration. It also involves an intertwining of the two to become “One flesh”, meaning that the bond in the union is beyond the physical realms, it is much more than the eyes can see.

Bearing the depth of this spiritual implication in mind, it is believed or expected that one of the two persons involved will or should be able to win the other over to sharing in his or her beliefs or faith. The reason here is, as a Kingdom (Family), you can not be divided and be expected to stand. Also, you cannot serve two Altars of worship, while you be declared to be bounded in love (Spirit, Soul and Body).
These concerns predominantly arouse all the sentiments from both ends of the divide, when young people from different religious sects seek to marry and live together for the rest of their lives.

One of the critical factors that also influences these situations is, the position of the Male gender in the relationship. The faith or religion of the male is mostly considered and the leading spirit or influence over the household, since the male is the priest over his household.
It is most and generally believed that the man’s Priesthood and spiritual influence will dominate his house, therefore setting the direction in which the home affairs are being run.
It is on this note that most parents insist that their children keep the faith that they were brought up under, believing that by this they have succeeded in raising a godly heritage.

Most Christians will often quote the Bible from 2Cor. 6:14, which says “Be ye not unequally yoked with unbelievers”, as a meaning, do not have anything to do with people who are not of the same faith as you.
This interpretation is so wrong because we fail to rightly appropriate the word “unequally”. We can “equally” be yoked with unbelievers, but not unequally. When we think about the era in which the Bible was written, which was in the agrarian age, most of its illustrations and explanations were done with agrarian terms. If you had to plow the ground for planting, you needed to yoke two Oxens of equal strength and capacity, in order to deliver the effectiveness of your plow. Should one Ox be stronger that the other, the yoke would break the weaker one’s neck and kill it.
In deploying this to our lives, it simply means that when we bond with people of a faith other than what we believe, we must be equally strong to ensure we are not pulled off our faith and belief in God and Christ.

Having said all these, I believe that the one thing that cannot be counterfeited or adulterated by any faith is LOVE. If Love be the reason why the two have decided to come together to express their God nature and mandate as co-creators with God and to be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth, then the God of Love, who is love Himself will reveal Himself to them and bring them to the place of fulfillment in purpose and destiny.

I have seen several cases of such inter faith marriages and God has showed Himself strong and Mighty on behalf of the couples involved, as much as the love professed was genuine.

We do also understand that when people profess “love” most of the time, it is simply a state of emotion, and a view point influenced by several objects or subjects about the time of connection or coming together of the two. Since Love is the same as Hate, both only varying in degree of viewpoint as stated by the law of polarity, it is lickly that two people who professed love for each other and swore never to let anyone or anything come between them, could turn around and endup as sworn enemies. What happened here would be a drift in their views towards each other, and the truth is, couples often come to realise that as the years go by, what drove them at the instance of their relationship is totally different from what sustains the relationship down the line.

My summation here then is, let everyone who finds themselves in situations as this, take some time and think through all the consequences, implications and the future of the home they seek to build. Bible says, “let he who seeks to build a house, first count the cost, and be sure that he will finish it, before he starts, lest he abandons the project after that he has started, then realises he has not enough capacity to complete it”.

I in my opinion then do not object to these faiths inter marrying, I however am concerned that Christ be the Lord of their lives in the end. So my prayer would be that they find Christ, the Rock of their salvation, if they never really did.

Let love rule and reign over all that we do, in Jesus Name. Amen.” – Kelvin Otung.

This position above summarises my view on this case study. I trust this helps someone out there. God bless.

Have a productive week.

Adewumi Oni

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Case Study 6 – Religious Bias

David met Fatima on an official assignment in Jos. The two struck off immediately and had lunch together throughout his one week engagement in Jos. He works with a Consultant Firm while Fatima works with a legal firm, both based in Lagos.

They started seeing each other on their return to Lagos. Both of them knew they were going to face serious challenges should they decide to take their relationship further, being from different religion.

David is from a devout Anglican family while Fatima is from a staunch member of the NASFAT sect of Islam. However they are both madly in love and have vowed to weather the storm of parental acceptance together.

They have both agreed to teach their future children about both religion and allow them make their choices. They both respect each other’s religion.

Both parents upon knowledge of their relationship have refused to consent to their intention to marry. David’s father even threatened to disown him, while Fatima’s father warned her she will lose her portion of inheritance if she marries David.

They are determined to dare the odds but the pressure from friends, family and their religious circles is becoming unbearable. What should they do? Should religion hinder marriage relationship? Share your thoughts.

Adewumi Oni

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Manna Mentality Will Take You Nowhere!

I am amazed at Nigerians unwavering dedication to religious activities, whether programs or holidays and new months.

Text messages, WhatsApp, and other social media are always awash with greetings of all kinds, both in words and pictures when a new month begins or there is one religious celebration or the other.

We have become a nation of greeters. ‘Happy New Month’, ‘Happy This’, ‘Happy That’. We are unrepentantly committed to outdoing one another in sending these greetings.

Just imagine if we direct this passion towards innovation and entrepreneurship. Imagine setting monthly goals and tenaciously achieving those goals with the same passion we direct towards sending greetings.

Or even the same passion we direct at attending vigils, revivals, crusades, and other religious meetings, imagine directing that energy at starting and running a business. Imagine that half the number of religious centers are business enterprises, imagine the impact on GDP, job and wealth creation.

Tell me which nation has become developed through prayers and greetings alone? Tell me where any people have become great just by praying and fasting?

I am not in any way downplaying the role of religion in the nation, religion should help shape our characters and national values. We should not become so religious that we expect manna to fall from heaven through prayers. The days of falling-manna are over, we are in the days of doing exploits.

If you truly know your God, you should be strong and doing exploits. You should be a co-creator with God, a partner with God in producing. What are you producing? What have you invented? China rose to become a world power through inventions and not prayers?

Change that Manna mentality, it will take you nowhere.

This is my Easter greetings. Just as Christ rose on the third day, rise from that Manna mentality and start producing.

Reflect on these things!

Watch out for the ‘Next Generation‘ Seminar.

Adewumi Oni

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