Life Nuggets

Never look down on someone because he is weak, your strength is a gift and not of your own making. We are made with different abilities. Be humble enough to admit this.

Be careful and do not boast about your success, life may have been given you a headstart ahead of others. Appreciate it and lend a helping hand to those behind you.

Do not go into marriage looking for happiness. If you are not happy on your own, you will be worse off in marriage because both of you might just be thoroughly disappointed.

The easiest way to remain poor is to spend all you earn or more than you earn. Keep your expenses within your means and invest a portion of your earnings no matter how little.

No one has solved any problem by fretting or being anxious. Sleep well at night. You need a clear mind and well rested body to think right and receive inspiration to solve that challenge.

As much as possible, touch lives in a positive way. Nothing counts much in life but the good deeds we do matter a lot, because you make God look real to people when you help.

Have a great week and remember to be an angel for someone this week.

Cheers!

Adewumi Oni

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Case Study 5 – Keep or Abort (Closing Discussion)

Last week, we have looked at the pros and cons of keeping or aborting Kike’s pregnancy and ended with recommendation that the pregnancy should be kept.

In closing, we are looking at the Support System for women with unwanted or unplanned pregnancy.

Support System includes the culture, societal behaviour or perception and regulations, policies and laws protecting women carrying such pregnancies.

Most societies frown at people carrying unwanted pregnancies and tend to ostracize them. This is a major contributory factor to high rate of abortion and the attendant health complications.

While not encouraging careless sex, it is a crime against humanity to maltreat or ostracise women carrying unwanted pregnancies. Some are pregnant as a result of rape, and they are already suffering emotional and psychological trauma, further ostracising them is nothing but cruelty.

More than ever, they need love, they need counsel, they need to be accepted like normal people.

There is also a need to strengthen our laws and policies to ensure that full wrath of the law is meted on rapists. In most cases, the rape victims get more humiliation than the rapist. This should be completely stopped.

NGOs and Orphanages should also be supported with policy instruments by the government to take up children from such unwanted pregnancies. There is need to create awareness through ‘No Abortion’ campaign to stem the tide of abortion and dumping of babies.

Every baby has a right to live once it is conceived, regardless of the situation surrounding the conception. Except when there is threat to the life of the carrier, pregnancy should be carried through.

Good morning and have a great week.

Adewumi Oni

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Case Study 5 – Keep or Abort (Discussion)

Kike’s story resonates with several young girls and women who for one reason or the other have found themselves carrying a pregnancy that was never planned for or expected.

So in rounding up this discussion, we will try to look out both the victims and the support systems available in our society.

I got some interesting responses and mostly skewed towards aborting the pregnancy. Quite understandable because we usually prefer the path of least resistance or the path with less troubles.

Now let us logically look at the Pros and Cons of both.

Abort

Pros:

Kike saves herself from embarrassment.

Kike can continue to lead a ‘normal life.’

The unborn child would not have to fight identity battle.

Cons:

Kike can have health complications in the process.

Kike would have to deal with her conscience for life.

Another life has been truncated.

Keep

Pros:

Kike becomes a carrier of life and births a destiny

Saves herself from complications arising from abortion

Cons:

Kike can’t lead a normal life again

She has to deal with the financial issues of nursing the pregnancy and child

She might have to deal with the issue of stigmatisation. (You can add to this list)

Now leaving logic, it is important to note that the process of conception is spiritual, without belittling our knowledge of biology. Every child that is conceived is a divine gift and should be dealt with as such. If there was no purpose for the child, God wouldn’t have allowed the conception.

It doesn’t matter what the circumstances surrounding the pregnancy are, it remains a gift from God. You can however choose to accept it or reject it.

The same way we cringe when we watch someone being beaten to death, is the same way heaven cringes when we abort, especially when it is a premeditated one, and not a life threatening situation.

This is not an easy choice, I quite agree, but this is what I recommend for anyone out there with a similar case.

Now, one of the reasons people go for abortion is the support system available for unwanted pregnancy. We are a cold society, who delights in pointing fingers and ostracizing women in such situations. Next week, we will discuss the Support at length.

Good morning and have a great week.

Adewumi Oni

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Case Study 5 – Keep or Abort?

Kike woke up early that fateful morning two months ago. She lives with her elder sister and her family. She had to prepare breakfast for her two nieces and get them ready for the school bus, before leaving for work. She finished all of these by 6:05am and left the house with the intention of walking to the Estate gate where she usually joins ‘Danfo’ bus to Victoria Island where she works.

She had only taken a few steps before she felt a tap on her shoulder and someone covering her nose with a piece of cloth with some strange smell. That was the last thing she recalled before waking up. She woke up in an uncompleted building and found her skirt and underwear ripped. She felt weak and felt something running down her legs as she made attempt to walk.

She tried looking for her bag and found it a few feet from her with the content littered on the floor. Her phone was gone. She tried shouting for help but her voice was barely audible. She managed to walk to the road and flagged down a vehicle driving towards the gate. The vehicle stopped and before she could walk down to the vehicle , she passed out again.

She woke up on the hospital bed about an hour later. The good Samaritan had left for work leaving a note and phone number. The nurse told her she has been raped and medications have been administered on her. She was discharged two days later after running some tests.

Two months later, Kike started feeling sick, nauseous and weak. She thought it was malaria and went to the hospital, but the doctor shocked her that she was 7 weeks pregnant. Her world came tumbling down. Why? How? What do I do now? These were the questions running through her mind.

When she told her sister and brother in-law later in the evening, they were both shocked and confused. They later advised her to abort the pregnancy, but her mum called that she should not abort the pregnancy. How do you keep a baby you don’t even know the father? Who will marry her with such a baggage?

She is confused. What should she do? Share your opinion.

Good morning and have a great week.

Adewumi Oni

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