True Fathers

In light of another Father’s Day, marked yesterday, I believe it is necessary to share some lessons on Fatherhood, so that we don’t miss the essence of marking such a day.

Fathers are very important in any society. Their presence or absence in a society determines the quality and longevity of such society.

True fathers are builders. They mould characters, form destinies, build people and affect generations. As a father, if you are acting irresponsibly, just be sure that some destinies around you, whether connected to you or not might follow your footsteps, creating more chaos in an already chaotic society. So live responsibly. Dress responsibly. Speak responsibly. Manage your habitat responsibly. Lead responsibly. I saw a cartoon of a five year old boy asking a grown man to pull up his pants (deliberately sagged). The true Father in this case is the little boy.

True fathers are mentors. They deliberately cultivate and nurture others to their full potentials. It was Winston Churchill who said “We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.” Your life is not measured by how much you have, but how many lives you have touched. Stop the vanities.

True fathers leave inheritance for their children and grand children. We live in an age where parents become burden on their children once they complete their education. Yes, you should eat the fruits of your labour, but don’t eat the fruits with the tree! You can leave either material wealth or good name for your children and wards. Don’t leave debts and bad legacy for them.

True Fathers sacrifice a lot to see their children, wards and mentees achieve their dreams. The ‘Father of all’ sacrificed His begotten Son, so that He might have many more sons. Sacrifice for your children now so as not to become the sacrifice later.

True Fathers bless. Always pronounce blessings on your children and wards. Stop the curses and negative confessions. Speak life into their lives through early morning blessings and words of encouragement.

True fathers corrects in love. Don’t withhold the stick when it should be applied, but use it with love. When you have to punish, let them know the reason for the punishment and the expected result from such punishment.

True fathers listen. No one knows it all except God. Be willing to listen to others and hear their views. Even God said let us reason together, how can you be the all-knowing?

True fathers take responsibility for their actions. Don’t bear a child you cannot raise. Don’t have sex if you are not ready to be a father. Don’t be a seed dispenser, be a life nurturer.

As we relish the memory of the just concluded Father’s Day Celebration, let us begin to weigh ourselves on the scale of True Fatherhood. The better we are as Fathers, the better our world would be.

Have a great week ahead.

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Be Careful With Your Words

We live in times where nerves are on edges, temper very short, pressure extremely high, and emotional threshold stretched beyond limit.

Globally depression and suicide rates have gone up. Both poor and rich, young and old are taking their lives. Who would have thought Anthony Bourdain of CNN would die of suicide!

It is therefore important that you mind the way you talk to people. Mind the way you address people. Mind the kind of remarks you make. Even your comments on social media should be civil. Argue with civility. Address issues and not personalities.

Your words may be the last straw that will break the camel’s back and push someone to end his life. Your word can be the trigger to push someone into insanity. You can’t joke carelessly anymore.

There are so many hurt people around us. The fact that they are smiling and smartly dressed doesn’t mean they are not hurting, so be kind with your words. Let your conversation be seasoned with grace that it may bring life to the hearers. Don’t kill with your builds.

Also make efforts to reach out to others. Sow a seed into someone’s life, the effect may be life changing. You may just be the life saver for that depressed soul. Let us reach out to one another. We all need some comforting. Let us work towards reducing this suicide rate.

Don’t build life around yourself alone. Lend helping hands to strangers. Be kind to people. Be a life saver and not a killer.

Have a great day and week ahead. To our Muslim brethren, happy Eid El Fitri in advance!

Have a productive week.

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Despise No One

It has been said that Duchess Meghan Markle once took picture in front of the Buckingham Palace as a tourist student. She was a tourist in front of the Palace that recently welcomed her as a Duchess.

Be careful how you treat those around you. Do not despise or disdain anyone. The Least today can become the Great tomorrow. The Servant today can become the Governor tomorrow. Do not write anyone off. You are not the writer of that destiny, so why do you conclude that it is over for him?

Honorable Minister of Works, Power and House, Babatunde Raji Fashola once presided over the State Executive Council meeting where His Excellency, Vice President Yemi Osinbajo was the State Commissioner for Justice, today the VP often presides over the Federal Executive Council meeting where BRF attends as a member! Be careful!

Do not get carried away with power, because it changes abode. If it is with you today, use it well. Use it for the good of humanity, because life will place a demand on you later which only humanity can help you meet.

That young boy may be your life saver in the future, be nice to him. That dirty looking girl may be the future First Lady, don’t maltreat her Madam, because your husband might be appointed as her personal aide-de-camp. That poor boyfriend can become a global force tomorrow. That lady you have been abusing might be the mother of the future President. Who are you to write anyone off? Ordinary dust calling another person ordinary!

Nobody can be written off because the One who specialises in writing and rewriting people’s destiny has not stopped working. The One who lifts the beggar from the dunghill and sets him among the Princes is still on the throne, so be careful.

Sow seed of kindness, help, and favor, you don’t know which will come back, or how it will come back and when it will come back. One thing is certain, every seed sown will come back, therefore be a good seed in the life of everyone around you, so that you will not hide in shame when their stories change for good. Despise none!

Good morning and have a great week ahead.

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Think of Tomorrow (1)

Your tomorrow is a product of today’s seed. If you are not happy about where you are today, you have probably taken some wrong decisions or actions in the past. If you want a better tomorrow, start planting the seed today. Every action you take today will produce a result tomorrow, either negative or positive.

It is therefore important that you weigh all your actions on the scale of tomorrow. Will that step improve your life in the future? Or does it have the capacity to damage your tomorrow? You must always think of tomorrow.

Young lady, before you sell yourself cheaply for money, have you thought of STDs, unwanted pregnancies, damage to your reproductive organs, ritualists clothed in sheep’s clothing? Think of tomorrow!

Young man, before you join that cult, have you thought of how cultists always end their lives? Have you thought of the trauma you will put your parents and loved ones in when you become a victim of cult clash? Do you want to cut your destiny short? Think of tomorrow!

Mr Area Boy, before you accept money to be a tool in the hands of wicked politicians to help disrupt election proceedings, have you asked yourself why the politicians are not using their own children? Do you know why? Because they want to preserve their tomorrow and sacrifice your own tomorrow. Think of tomorrow!

Honourable, before you divert public fund to your private purse, have you thought of the millions of lives that money will affect negatively if you divert it? Have you thought of the number of deaths occurring on daily basis in our public hospitals because you stole the money meant for equipments and drugs? Or the schools without teachers and equipped laboratories because you have starved them of funds? Or the half-baked graduates produced from such schools and the burden they add to the society? Think of tomorrow!

Mr Contractor, have you thought of the number of accidents you have caused because you did shoddy job on the road constructions? Have you thought about the destinies that are daily being wasted because of potholes? Can’t you see that you are killing people indirectly? Think of tomorrow!

Nigeria is where she is today because of the choices we have all made in the past, both leaders and followers alike. If we truly desire true and positive change , we need to start thinking of tomorrow in all of our actions. Leaving the country won’t solve the problem, you are only escaping your reality.

Think of tomorrow!

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Times and Seasons

Each season comes with its blessings and challenges. Rainy season is always welcome after a prolonged period of heat and dryness. For farmers, rain is a sign of blessing. It means planting can start. It also means plants can flourish and harvest is guaranteed.

However, when it rains too heavily, everybody begins to complain. The farm field becomes waterlogged and can even damage some plants. Roads become flooded and people get trapped, and in some cases suffering loss of properties and investments.

Dry Season can also be a welcome sight after a season of heavy rainfall. No more dirty water on the road. No more fear of stormy wind pulling away roofs and destroying properties. However, when the heat sets in, we then starts complaining. The dryness and scorching heat can become so unbearable that we soon start clamouring for the rain to return.

Isn’t this how life is? Cyclical and with ups and downs. With moments of joy and celebration, as well as moments of pain and sorrow. No matter who you are, you will have your own fair share. A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.

Life is full of times and seasons. None is permanent. The times will come and go. The seasons will arrive and pass.

Wisdom is knowing that the time of hardship will pass and fortune will turn again.

Wisdom is knowing how to plant in the rain so you can eat during the heat.

Wisdom is knowing not to take permanent decisions during a temporary season.

Wisdom is being strong enough to weather the storm while it lasts, because it always ends.

Stay strong, it is just a season.

Stay wise, there is no guarantee that it will always be sweet.

Stay humble, you do not know where you will be tomorrow.

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Manna Mentality Will Take You Nowhere!

I am amazed at Nigerians unwavering dedication to religious activities, whether programs or holidays and new months.

Text messages, WhatsApp, and other social media are always awash with greetings of all kinds, both in words and pictures when a new month begins or there is one religious celebration or the other.

We have become a nation of greeters. ‘Happy New Month’, ‘Happy This’, ‘Happy That’. We are unrepentantly committed to outdoing one another in sending these greetings.

Just imagine if we direct this passion towards innovation and entrepreneurship. Imagine setting monthly goals and tenaciously achieving those goals with the same passion we direct towards sending greetings.

Or even the same passion we direct at attending vigils, revivals, crusades, and other religious meetings, imagine directing that energy at starting and running a business. Imagine that half the number of religious centers are business enterprises, imagine the impact on GDP, job and wealth creation.

Tell me which nation has become developed through prayers and greetings alone? Tell me where any people have become great just by praying and fasting?

I am not in any way downplaying the role of religion in the nation, religion should help shape our characters and national values. We should not become so religious that we expect manna to fall from heaven through prayers. The days of falling-manna are over, we are in the days of doing exploits.

If you truly know your God, you should be strong and doing exploits. You should be a co-creator with God, a partner with God in producing. What are you producing? What have you invented? China rose to become a world power through inventions and not prayers?

Change that Manna mentality, it will take you nowhere.

This is my Easter greetings. Just as Christ rose on the third day, rise from that Manna mentality and start producing.

Reflect on these things!

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Life Nuggets

Never look down on someone because he is weak, your strength is a gift and not of your own making. We are made with different abilities. Be humble enough to admit this.

Be careful and do not boast about your success, life may have been given you a headstart ahead of others. Appreciate it and lend a helping hand to those behind you.

Do not go into marriage looking for happiness. If you are not happy on your own, you will be worse off in marriage because both of you might just be thoroughly disappointed.

The easiest way to remain poor is to spend all you earn or more than you earn. Keep your expenses within your means and invest a portion of your earnings no matter how little.

No one has solved any problem by fretting or being anxious. Sleep well at night. You need a clear mind and well rested body to think right and receive inspiration to solve that challenge.

As much as possible, touch lives in a positive way. Nothing counts much in life but the good deeds we do matter a lot, because you make God look real to people when you help.

Have a great week and remember to be an angel for someone this week.

Cheers!

Adewumi Oni

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