Power of Self Discipline – Importance

It is almost impossible to have a successful marriage without self discipline. Successful relationship thrives on self discipline.

In marriage, it takes discipline to keep playing one’s part regardless of convenience. It requires a lot of discipline to stay true to marital vow, when you are no longer in the mood under which you made the vow.

You will always meet someone better than your spouse, maybe prettier, richer or more intelligent. No matter who you marry, your loyalty will always be tested and there will always be reasons to let go of your spouse.

Marriage reveals the weaknesses in your spouse. You begin to see the real person behind the man or woman you married. You will sometimes question your decision in choosing your spouse, but self discipline will help you to overlook and stay committed at making your spouse a better person.

One of the main reasons for high rate of divorce today is lack of Self Discipline. Abusive husbands lack self discipline and cannot restrain themselves from assaulting their wives. A man who cannot exercise control over himself is like a city without fence, anyone and anything can enter.

Your mood or emotion should never control you, you must always learn to be in charge of your life. Tame your tongue, bridle your anger, put a leash on your body. The things that break homes are not big issues, they are usually small issues that accumulate over time. Learn to deal with every open wound before it becomes a big sore.

It is not everytime you say things as it comes to you, some things are only acceptable when presented nicely. It is called tact. Be disciplined enough to weigh and frame your words before utterance. A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.
Proverbs 25:11 KJV.

Put your ego aside and apologise, and not only when you are at fault. Nothing thrives in a state of disharmony, so even if it means swallowing your pride to make peace, do so, the end will always justify you. Forgive and let go, not forgiving will harm you more.

Be a supportive wife. Do not shift all the burden on your husband when you can help. Be economically active as a wife, you must always have a source of income no matter how small. Invest in your home, do not spend all on unnecessary frivolities.

Resolve your issues between yourselves , as much as possible, avoid third party interference. Let God be your umpire and let His words be your guide.

Good morning and have a fruitful week.

Adewumi Oni




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Power of Self Discipline – Importance

It takes discipline to retain wealth. Some things are easy to get and hard to lose, e.g sexually transmitted diseases. Some things are also hard to get and easy to lose e.g riches, fame and integrity. If you are not well disciplined you will lose money within minutes and one mistake can damage your integrity for a lifetime.

Good Financial management requires a lot of discipline. You must not be given to impulse spending. You cannot be rich if you keep competing with everyone. All ‘wannabes’ hardly become anything. Do not live your life to be like the Joneses, you will end up being poor.

When you spend you miss an opportunity to grow your money. When you save or invest, you create opportunity to make more money.

Rules of Spending

1. Have a budget, whether weekly or monthly and follow your budget.

2. Never spend all your income

3. Spend on others, it always come back to you.

4. Do not spend in advance of income, it blocks your ability to take opportunities.

5. Keep to planned spendings, do not be impulsive.

Rules of Savings

1. Save for precautionary motive (for the rainy day).

2. Save for speculative motive (investments, mutual funds, treasury bills, fixed deposits, etc

3. Keep your money away from ‘Get Rich Quick Schemes ‘. There is no easy way to get rich, it requires time and hardwork.

4. Do not use all your savings to finance investment opportunities if you can borrow.

Rules for Borrowing

1. Only borrow to finance asset acquisition or income yielding opportunities.

2. Ensure your income is at east three times the amount needed to service your debt obligations.

3. Ensure you have Savings at least twice as much as your borrowing.

4. Borrowing to finance consumption is a sign of poor planning and will only keep you further indebted.

No matter how small your income is, have a plan for it. Increase your income earning capacity by improving yourself through reading, attending trainings and seminars, following mentors and consistently raising your bars.

Stay financially disciplined and have a great week.

Adewumi Oni




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