As we wrap up this series today, we will be closing with the Poverty Mentality. This is the mentality that has crippled the African race and kept us behind all other races. It is the mentality ruling most of our leaders. It is the mentality that has ravaged our land and is still enslaving our children in droves just like a vortex sucks in water. It is arguably the worst of all, in terms of its capacity to destroy both present and future potentials.  
What is poverty mentality? It is a mental block that makes someone sees himself as been poor and pushes one to steal, loot, usurp, waste and kill, with a view to amass enough wealth to guarantee that one would never be poor again. It is the mentality that makes people believe that every opportunity to hold a position,  either in private or public offices, is an opportunity to enrich themselves rather than serving the good of all. It is also the reason why we sell our goods and services at abnormal margins because we think we may never sell again. Smart people leverage on turnover, poor people leverage on margins. It only takes time before the foolishness of abnormal margins is revealed. 

Poverty mentality is the black race worst nightmare! This was why some of our forefathers colluded with the white man to sell fellow blacks into slavery. Oh, how better we would be, if we deal a death blow to Poverty Mentality. 
It is borne out of insecurity and apprehension of the future. We don’t trust ourselves or our leaders to do the right things to ensure a good future, so we help ourselves by defrauding, embezzling, looting, stealing and killing. All ritualists, kidnappers, looters of treasuries, armed robbers, prostitutes and practitioners of other money-induced vices are victims of Poverty Mentality. 
In that you have written yourself off from making it, and have settled for taking what belongs to others, you are poor even though you have the best mansions or possessions. If you follow the principles of success, you will make it, no matter how long it takes. Stop allowing Poverty Mentality to rule you, it not only destroys you, it destroys others as well. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning! 

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We have looked at three mentalities thus far namely :

The Average Mentality 

The Defeatist Mentality 

The Vendetta Mentality 
Today, we will be discussing the Victim Mentality. This is a mental block that makes one sees himself as a victim of life, circumstances, other people’s actions, and which consequently make the person give up control over his or her live. It is a mentality that assumes a situation of having no control over one’s life, thereby assuming there is no need to put up a fight. It usually makes the victim to throw pity party. Such people are fond of saying, ‘if only I was born by so and so’, or ‘if only my father didn’t die’, and so many ‘ifs’.
When someone is operating under this mentality, he avoids blame and doesn’t take responsibility for his situation. As a matter of fact, everybody else is responsible for his situation, except himself. And because he doesn’t take responsibility, he can’t make any meaningful progress in life. People generally avoid such people and they bypass them,  even when opportunities that could benefit them arise. 
To change this mentality, you must first know that you are the primary driver of your life. Two, people, situations and circumstances can only shape your life to the extent to which you permit. Three, you have to take responsibility for all that happens in and to you. The moment you start taking responsibility for your life, you have taken charge of the vehicle of your life. As long as you keep refusing to be responsible for your life, anyone and anything can drive you anywhere. 
The choice is really yours. You can choose to take charge and tame life, or continue to mope in self pity and remain a victim. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning! 

Another dangerous and life wrecking mentality is the vendetta mentality. It is a mental block borne out of deep seated, anger, resentment and urge to revenge. It blinds the mind and eyes of its victims from doing the right things. It is sometimes fuelled by the injustice in the world system. 
When you are operating with the vendetta mentality, you will make serial errors and ignore the path of sensible reasoning. Your focus will be shifted from goals that will benefit the greater people to fulfilling your vengeance mission. You will mismanage your resources and public resources. 
One of the reasons why most of our leaders in political positions don’t succeed is because they have a Vendetta Mentality. They are after their political enemies and opponents. They will deny the constituencies of their opponents of infrastructural amenities because of their quest to hit out on their opponents. The cycle is repeated when the opposition gains power and the public suffers for the Vendetta Cycle. 
When you set out on a vendetta mission, whether in your personal life, business or politics, you will not only fail but also affect other lives negatively. This mentality will warp your sense of reasoning and make you do things that you would not have done naturally. 
If you have been operating with this mentality, it is time to let go. Vengeance belongs to God, the true and righteous Judge. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning! 

We started this series yesterday with the Average Mentality, and concluded that it is the worst mentality anyone can have. Nobody who operates with such mentality achieves anything remarkable. 
Today we are looking at the Defeatist Mentality. It is a mental block that allows one to expect and accept defeat without putting up a fight. It is borne out of a negative mindset, which could be experiential, circumstantial or psychological. 
To avoid being a victim of Defeatist Mentality, you must do the following :

Separate events from personalities: The fact that you  fail in a task doesn’t make you a failure. Anything could have led to the failure. 

Always believe nothing is impossible: Even if you have not succeeded in achieving that goal, it does not mean it is impossible, it only means you have not found the possible way. 

Believe in yourself: The main problem behind the Defeatist Mentality is lack of self confidence or low self esteem. You must stop belittling yourself and start visualise yourself achieving great things. Stop expecting failure and start expecting success. 

Start with small tasks: As you achieve those small tasks and have a record of successes, you will begin to silence the defeatist inner voice, and your confidence level will grow. 
Don’t allow defeatist mentality anymore. Get into the winning mode. You can make it. Yes, you can. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning! 

Have you wondered why people you spent your childhood with end up either very successful or pitiably unsuccessful? Or why you seem to be either lagging behind or miles ahead of your schoolmates, classmates or age mates? I am sure we have all asked ourselves these questions. 
In this series, we will discuss some of the reasons, which are actually called ‘mental blocks’  or ‘mentalities’, responsible for where you  are today. These mental blocks reduce the chances of reaching full potential or even stop potentials. My hope is that, at the end of the series, you would have identified your own mental block(s). Or if you don’t have any, you would have learnt how to avoid these mentalities. 
The first mentality is the Average Mentality. Average is perhaps the worst word ever invented. It depicts a ‘slightly  better than poor’ position. Portia de Rossi puts it succinctly, “Average. It was the worst, most disgusting word in the English language. Nothing meaningful or worthwhile ever came from that word.” 

An average mentality makes one to accept to just be slightly better than the worst. It is a mentality that never strives for the best. Such a person always put in minimal effort to escape being the worst or least person. You cannot amount to anything worthwhile with the average mentality. 

It is average mentality that makes students to read to pass, rather than to understand and excel. It is this same mentality that makes an employee aims only to finish his task while being less concerned about time spent and quality of work. Same mentality is responsible for people settling for less than the best in life. It is a destroyer of destiny. 

You must hate this mentality, fight it off and replace it with the Winning Mentality, if you are to make any mark in life. You always have a choice to either settle for average or aim for the best. 

God bless us all. 

Good morning! 

There is a story on social media about a woman who  betrayed her friend by spilling the beans that the child of the friend belongs to another man. There have been all kinds of reactions against both friends, but that is for another day. 
The focus here is that there is nothing you do in secret that will not be revealed sooner or later. No matter how well you try to hide a lie, truth will always catch up with it. A Yoruba adage says ‘If a lie has travelled for twenty years, the truth will catch up with it one day.’ 
Don’t build your life on lies. Don’t lie to win a contract. Don’t lie to win a office.  Don’t lie about your age to get a job. Leave the job if you are overaged. Don’t bring another man’s child home to your husband as his. Sooner or later, it will be revealed and you will be put to shame. Not only will you be put to shame, others may partake in your shame. The story of the two friends would have come to light one way or the other, so it is not about the friend betraying, it is about lies.
Let us be truthful in all we do. Many of our woes as a nation today are the consequences of lies of our past leaders. Together we can rebuild this nation if we start acting and speaking the truth. 
God bless us all.  

Good morning! 

In a bid to stay ahead in today’s world, many of us have lost the virtue of patience. We do everything in a hurry and we rush for almost everything and expect instant results for all our efforts. Instant coffee, instant photo, instant messaging, etc are all on the good sides of staying ahead. 
But we have a lot on the bad side, jumping queues for bus or in the banking hall or anywhere, overspeeding on the road, breaking traffic light, and a whole lot of habits that have contributed to the moral decadence in our world. 
Can we just relearn patience again? Be patient when you are on that queue. Be patient when you see elderly people on the queue, give them room first. Be patient when there is traffic, don’t take one way and further lock the traffic jam. Be patient when explaining things to your kids and watch what you do in their presence. 
Be patient when you have done your best and still no result. You will not missed what belongs to you if you are patient. Preach Patience. It is a Virtue. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning! 

Most of the ills in our society today are symptomatic of sick homes. In every sense of it, many homes require emergency attention and until we start fixing homes, our attempts to restore values and decency in our world would continue to yield fruitless results. 
Your home is your first and main garden. Every other preoccupation is secondary,  whether secular or spiritual. Just as Adam was placed in the Garden of Eden to tend, cultivate and maintain the garden, your home is to be tended, cultivated and maintained for God. 
No matter how responsible you are in your profession or vocation, to the extent that you are irresponsible at home, you are a failure. Many people will be shocked to read this. A man who fails to provide for his household is worse than an infidel. The man here represents both genders. 
Pay attention to your children and ward. Train them to be hardworking and instil the fear of God in their heart. Let them join you in carrying out house chores as soon as they are of age. Don’t indulge them. We have too many microwave young men and women out there today. Beautiful outside but lacking manners and with zero culinary skills. Be their mentor and provide emotional, spiritual, financial and material guidance for them. If you are not your children’s first mentor, then you don’t qualify to be a mentor to others. 
Also, maintain your home. Keep it clean. Houses don’t collapse overnight, they cave in gradually. Have a maintenance habit. Check your electrical fittings, plumbing system, mechanical system and civil structure from time to time. Weed and trim your grass and flowers. Sometimes we blame witches and wizards for the cats, snakes and scorpions we see in our homes, when we are the real culprits after failing to keep our homes clean. No matter how beautiful and handsome you are, if your home is dirty, it shows that you are just a pretender. 
Start paying attention to your home today. Together, if we raise healthy homes our world will become safer and better. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning!  

We often view life through eyes distorted by the pains, losses, failures, and misfortunes we have experienced, making us to come up with wrong conclusions about people, life and God. We become negative, moody, suspicious of people’s motives and intentions, often ending up missing out of great opportunities to recover what we have lost. 
Though it is important to learn from our experiences, we should not allow them to shade life wrongly such that we become the exact opposite of what God intends for us to be. Every wrong or negative experience we go through can be used to make us better persons and to comfort, counsel or comfort others. 
You may have been jilted in a relationship or several relationships, it doesn’t make all men or women bad. You just haven’t come across the one who deserves you. Your spouse may have cheated on you, it doesn’t mean you should throw your marriage away, you may be in the school of forgiveness and unconditional love. Or you have suffered huge loss in business because you trusted the wrong people, it could be that you are meant to do it alone or you are to sharpen your spirit of discernment. 
Whatever experience life and destiny allow you to go through is meant to make you a better person not a bad person. Don’t start stealing because you have been wrongly sacked. Don’t start sleeping around because you have been defiled. Take the experience, learn from it and use it positively. 
God bless us all. 
Good morning!