We live in a time and age when relationships and marriages are breaking apart with unprecedented frequency. It seems to be worse among celebrities. Except for a few, celebrities around the globe are the worst hit with this worrisome trend and unfortunately millions of youths want to adopt their lifestyles. It will do the world a lot of good if celebrities start seeing marriage as a covenant not to be joked with or take lightly. Generally, we all need to understand the gravity of the world ‘marriage’.

This is why I am led to share this with us today and hopefully conclude it this week. This part of this series is directed at those who are yet to marry or find a partner.

1. One of the reasons why marriages are failing is because people ‘fall in love’ and leave their senses behind. Before we proceed, it is important that we look at the phrase ‘fall in love’. What does it mean?

To fall in love means to begin to have strong feelings and desire to be with someone, having romantic love for someone and it is a state of mind where the emotions take over the control of the mind rather than reason or logic.

This is why a professor can fall in love with an uneducated village girl. Natural reason is suspended for emotions when you fall in love. This is why a beautiful lady will keep going back to someone who keeps beating and abusing her.

Falling in love without listening to your sense of reasoning or logic is wrong. DON’T EVER ignore your intuition or nudging in your mind that things are too fast. As a matter of fact, I will advise strongly against falling in love, but gently slide into love. Sliding into love is a deliberate act of balancing your emotions and reasoning, paying attention to all the signs of danger, addressing those signs by asking questions, weighing your options if they are things you can live with, and either accepting or rejecting the suitor. Be guided by these two rules when love comes calling :

– Pay attention to your sense and voice of reasoning. The little signs you ignore before marriage will become major cracks in your marriage.
– Don’t be in a hurry. ‘He that believeth shall not make haste.’ – Isaiah 28:16b. It is better to age peacefully alone that to age painfully in marriage.

Summary of this point is to hold your head and take things easy. Give it time

Talk to you tomorrow.

God bless us all.

Good morning Africa!

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It is said that the only constant change in life is ‘Change’ itself. Change keeps changing and is a constant factor, nothing else is constant, especially in our world. As we grow in life we experience a lot of changes, physical, emotional, physiological, spiritual and so on. We change over time.

Likewise, opinions, beliefs, traditions, cultures, practices and conditions change over time. It is therefore necessary that you subject your thought processes, response systems, biases, opinions and long held beliefs to emerging realities. It is a dangerous thing to be rigid and not to be responsive to realities.

One of the reasons why some people fail to make any reasonable progress is their inability to shift from their long held habits or positions. ‘This is how I have been doing my stuff and I can’t change it.’ Such positions will limit your growth in life and will make you live an unfulfilled life. You will miss out on new opportunities and breakthroughs. Break out of that mould.

‘Try to open up your mind a little, and move away from rigid opinions of what people should do and be – unless you have been there.’ – Ann Rule.

The only exception to this rule is when you have to do something spiritually, morally, mentally or physically wrong or harmful, then you can maintain your position. But when you are confronted with superior ways or ideas, wisdom requires that you bow to the superior. Don’t rot away in that position, accept change.

God bless us all.

Good morning Africa!

Lately, both print and social media have been deluged with news of death of young people, all over the world, but particularly more in our space here in Nigeria.

Most of the deaths are linked to heart and lifestyle related diseases like high blood pressure, diabetes, kidney failure, cancer and so on. While some of these are hereditary, a lot can be done to either prevent or even manage it if it is an hereditary case.

One of such is regular sleep. Please ensure you get minimum of six hours sleep on daily basis.

Also make sure you exercise at least three times a week and you may try to check on your physician for the proper exercise that fits your health profile.

Avoid fatty food, sugary food and lower your consumption of alcohol and caffeinated drinks.

Worry less and pray more. Don’t carry the world on your shoulder, you don’t have the capacity for that.

Carry out comprehensive medical check up periodically, at least once a year, especially once you attain the age of forty.

Avoid heavy late night meals. If you must eat at night, try vegetables or fruits. Eat balanced diet. Take a lot of water and fruits.

Finally, pay attention to your health. If you notice any strange development, see your doctor. Don’t overlook anything that has to do with your health.

Remember, you only live once, so live it right.

God bless us all.

Good morning Africa!

Still on the subject of unavoidable pains, I was challenged yesterday by two people (apparently not Africans), that the examples of circumcision and ear piercing are culture-imposed pains and not life-imposed, because in some part of the world, circumcision is not done for boys and ear piercing is also optional. My response was that, both examples may not be applicable in all climes but they are still examples of some of the unavoidable pains.

Another argument was on jackpot or lottery winners. My response was that ‘I do not consider jackpot or lottery as’ ‘gain’ in this context.’ How many jackpot winners have been able to maintain the sudden wealth? You can check this link for the discussion. https://disqus.com/home/discussion/channel-theatlanticdiscussions/unavoidable_pains_of_life/.

I am sharing this to encourage such discussions. No one has monopoly of ideas, so please feel free to share your thoughts on any of my broadcast.

Today we will look at one more pain tagged Pain of Maturity.

4. Pain of Maturity: Maturity is defined as the state, fact, or period of being mature. Cambridge English dictionary defines it as ‘the quality of behaving mentally and emotionally like an adult.’ My definition is ‘a state of readiness of the intellect and emotion, to accept responsibility.’ As you mature, life begins to place responsibilities on you, usually with consequences. It is important to accept responsibility if you desire to grow. Some responsibilities may be huge and demanding, but when  you succeed in meeting that responsibility, you would have become a better person than you were before. Maturity brings responsibilities. Responsibilities are often burdensome. For instance, as you age, a time will come when you have to fend for yourself  rather than relying on your parents or guardians. Rents, clothing, feeding, and even raising your own family are unavoidable. There are also certain positions (secular, political or religious) you take on either by election or appointment, that literally turn your life upside down. You struggle for a while until you reach a balance, after you have matured into the new role.

Perhaps you are experiencing the pain of Maturity now, be strong and hold it out. Hear this ‘Fire tests gold, suffering tests brave men.’ – Seneca.

God bless us all.

Good morning Africa!

Good morning friends and followers. I trust that we are staying in charge of every situation and circumstances in our lives.

Life comes with different spices. Sometimes it is sweet, sometimes just plain and sometimes bitter. Whichever life brings, make something good out it.

Today, I want to crave your indulgence to give me feedback on the daily broadcast. It could be in form of suggestion, criticism, complaint or even request. I will really appreciate a response from all my followers so I can know how helpful or otherwise this daily broadcast has been. You can either respond on this platform or send me a mail on adewumioni@gmail.com.

Thank you all and God bless us all.

Good morning Africa!

Good morning Nigeria!