Beyond the Looks

Adolf Hitler was considered a good looking man, yet he masterminded the worst holocaust in the history of mankind. His atrocities against the Jews remain unmatched till date. Delilah was beautiful yet she nursed the evil seed of destroying Samson in her mind. The point is, don’t judge people by their looks. In whatever relationship or situation, don’t base your judgment on the looks of someone else. ‘Oh he looks quite harmless, I think I can trust him.’ Don’t be carried away by his charms. Or ‘she looks innocent.’ You may be in for a shocker friend.

Ensure you carry out due diligence before you arrive at a judgment. Looks alone are not enough. Check his or her background. Test him or her. Check his or her temperament. Especially for those who are in search of marriage partners, don’t be deceived by the looks. Find out his or her health status. Blood group, and any family history. They are good indicators. Someone said ‘Marriage is a prison, so choose your prison mate carefully.’

Looks can be part of the factors for your decisions, but never to be considered as the only reason. Nothing is wrong with good looks, in fact you should always look good, but back up your looks with solid content. There are many beautiful ladies and handsome men who are walking corpses and nonentities. There are many good looking dudes and pretty girls who have nothing to offer than to suck you dry like a leech.

Swags don’t open doors,  but skills, talents, intelligence, diligence and integrity do. Forget the swags and look out for the real stuffs. A man’s worth is not in his looks but in his content. Go beyond the looks and check the contents.

God bless you all.

Good morning Africa!

Good morning Nigeria!

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Change of Guards

In palaces, government buildings and State Houses, the guards or soldiers protecting these places are changed at certain times of the day. This process is called ‘Change of Guards.’ For instance, in Buckingham Palace, change of guards happens everyday and the public is often allowed to witness this event. Change of Guards takes place for several reasons, some of which are, one to prevent compromise by any of the guards. Two, to allow the guards to rest and sharpen their senses before taking over guards position. Three, to allow them perform other functions. 

The main function of the guards is to protect the principal officers within the building from external aggression. Similarly, we have guards in our lives and God also carries out Change of Guards from time to time in our lives. The problem is that we often do not recognize the new guards or we keep drawing back the old guards.

Who are these guards? They could be mentors, friends, spiritual leaders, parents, and partners. God positions such people around your life to guide you towards the fulfillment of destiny, and to help you from making costly mistakes. Now, they are assigned by God for a reason and a season, once both reason and season have been fulfilled, God reassigns them to another destiny or purpose, this is the period of ‘Change of Guard’ for both the old ‘purpose’ and the new ‘purpose’. Please understand that you are a purpose and the earlier you find your purpose, the better for everyone.

Where we often run into problems is when we try to hold on to the old guard and refuse to acknowledge the new guard. At such times, we are open to attacks and errors. We must sharpen our spirit man to be able to discern ‘Change of Guards’ seasons. We are not to initiate ‘Change of Guards’ process by deliberately ignoring our guides, mentors, or leaders. Usually events trigger the process and if we are sensitive, we will know it is time to move on. An example was John the Baptist. At some point, his followers were worried that Jesus was getting more attention than him. He told them ‘He must increase and I must decrease’ – John 3:30. In other words, he was pointing his followers to the new guard (Jesus) in their life.

May you be more sensitive to the ‘Change of Guards’ seasons in your life. Insensitivity to Change of Guards can disrupt God’s plan for your life.

God bless us all.

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Guide Your Destiny

As we grow in life, we come across different people, situations, work environments, associations and culture, which I will term ‘influencers’. And because there is no vacuum in nature, these influencers in some cases rub off their values on us and in other cases, they try to impose their values on us. They affect us either positively or negatively. We are rarely unaffected by them. Ultimately, the target is our destiny.

It is important to determine in advance how we will manage these influencers, otherwise when they come we won’t know and we may have dropped down our guards. Even as parents/guardians, we need to constantly teach and prepare our kids/wards to be prepared for life influencers and how to manage them. We should never drop any positive value for negative ones.

Usually, negative values come in attractive shapes and forms. Instant gratification, a little indulgence in alcohol and hard drugs, a little rough play with chicks, some wild parties, gambling, small fun of raiding stores, having fun with firearms, joining secret clubs, etc. They are usually described as fun, especially for the youths. Adults are not exempted, both male and female. Just a fling, have a side chick, one night stand, strike a deal, give your boss some attention, and so on. Before you know it, you are in deep and it becomes difficult to extricate yourself.

It is better not to start at all. If you are in already, find your way out today. Ask for help if necessary. Negative influencers do nothing but destroy destinies. Delilah influenced Samson and he died untimely. The Sodomites influenced Lot’s family and he lost all. Guide your good values jealously and avoid negative influencers. Don’t let them compromise you. You have a great destiny. Be a positive influencers too.

Let these words be your guide, ‘Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.’ –  Philippians 4:8 KJV. Stay in charge.

God bless us all.

Good morning Africa!

Good morning Nigeria!

Sow the Right Seed

Our words, thoughts and actions are seeds and they always return in multiple fold. Have you observed that when you remember someone you haven’t seen for a while, you suddenly meet the person in the most unexpected place or receive a phone call from the person. Sometimes too, there may be a particular food you crave at a particular moment and you are just wishing you could have it, and all of a sudden, someone sends you a food package and there it is.

These are not mere coincidences. It is some proofs of the facts that our thoughts, words and actions eventually find expression. So you may want to be careful what you entertain as a thought, or the word you speak, or even your actions. Whatever you sow is what you will reap and it doesn’t usually come back in the same proportion. If you want to enjoy favour, sow favour. If you want to enjoy fairness, be fair. If you want to enjoy kindness, sow kindness.

Don’t worry about who rewards you. God is the ultimate rewarder and He knows how to reward you. What you give out will eventually come back to you. Watch what you are giving out in form of words, thoughts and actions. If you gossip about others, you will soon be a victim of malicious gossips. If you are fond of character assassination, yours is coming in a bigger way. We are sometimes victims of our words, thoughts and actions. So begin to check your thoughts, words and actions consciously.

“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” – Robert Louis Stevenson.  It is an irrevocable law of life. What a man sows that shall he reap. Start sowing the right seeds today.

God bless us all.

Good morning Africa!

Good morning Nigeria!

Give Life Your Best Shot

You only live once, so live it in such a way that your vacuum will be hard to fill when you are gone. It is usually said that no one is indispensable but the truth is some are irreplaceable. Have you found people in the likes of Martin Luther King, Mother Theresa, Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Gandhi? These lived to the fullest. They gave life their very best shots. The world literally stood still when they passed on. What marks are you making? Who will miss you if you breathe your last today? If you can’t provide satisfactory answers to these questions, then you are not giving life your best shot.

You need to understand that an ordinary life does not in any way make the world better. Every object in a state of uniform motion tends to remain in that state of motion unless an external force is applied to it. (Newton 1st law of motion). The world doesn’t move for ordinary people. It takes extraordinary people to move the world! People who impact the world don’t live ordinary lives. They are barrier breakers, record setters, mountain movers and world shakers! They are those who defy all odds to achieve their goals. They see every obstacle as a stepping stone. Mount a wall before them and they will create a door through the wall. Lock them up in cells and they use their experience to liberate millions from prison of limitations. They are simply unstoppable.

Where are you today? Are you down and counting your losses? Has life knocked you down and you are playing the blame game? It is time to get back up and give it your very best shot again. You may be down but you are not out. Make a lemonade from the lemons life is throwing at you. Build castles with the stones life is hurting at you. Don’t settle for mediocrity. Don’t ever settle for the ordinary life. Give it your best.

When you have given your best shot, win or lose, you mind will be at peace. “You find that you have peace of mind and can enjoy yourself, get more sleep, and rest when you know that it was a one hundred percent effort that you gave – win or lose.” – Gordie Howe.

So, is what/where you are now your best shot?

God bless us all.

Good morning Africa!

Good morning Nigeria!

Read to be Distinguished

If you find a society where there are good leaders, it must be a society that pays attention to reading. Readers are leaders. If you don’t read you cannot be informed. An uninformed mind is more dangerous than an unformed mind. A baby has an unformed mind. An uninformed mind is a formed mind empty of knowledge. He is susceptible to errors, and an easy object of manipulation by the informed mind.  One of the main reasons people choose wrong leaders during election is because they are uninformed. They follow the dictates of others.

“If we encounter a man of rare intellect, we should ask him what books he reads.” –  Ralph Waldo Emerson. You are a reflection of what you know. What you know is a function of your knowledge. Knowledge is acquired through learning and experiencing. The easiest of the two is learning, and one easy way to learn is by reading. Experiencing oftentimes is of more benefit to others than to the person having the experience, but reading benefits you directly.

The saying ‘Readers are leaders’ is not just a cliché. It is an enduring truth. Reading exposes you. Good books open up your mind and gives you edge above others in whatever subject you read on. They make you experience several lives while you are reading.  ‘A great book should leave you with many experiences, and slightly exhausted at the end. You live several lives while reading.’ (William Styron). It shouldn’t come as a surprise if the depth and content of your speech or conversation leaves your audience speechless. Such brilliant and articulate speech delivery, whether prepared or ad libbed  only comes from  consistent reading.

There is a lot of things you can easily learn by reading. Reading actually gives you the opportunity to understand the workings of the minds of the writers. So if you want to be a President, read books written by and about Presidents. Whatever you want to become in life, find books on those who have already achieved it.

In reading however, be careful with your choice of books. You can easily be initiated into some dangerous cults or habits by reading certain books. So read books on science, art,  Finance, self help, autobiographies and biographies of great people.  The Bible is arguably the greatest book because it is life manual. It teaches you how to live.

If you travel with great people, you will observe that while others are sleeping or chatting, most of the time they are reading and taking notes. So if you want to be Distinguished in life, you must make reading a chronic habit.

God bless us all.

Good morning Africa!

Good morning Nigeria!

Test Every Relationship

Many have been sent to early graves because they entrusted their lives in relationships they did not test. Many visions have been stolen and hijacked by unfaithful friends, associates and partners. Many have been ruined financially due to undue trust in others. There are so many Delilahs and Judases out there today, so before you start trusting, test the trust.

Don’t be in a hurry to start sharing your life’s secrets with someone you hardly know because he has an angelic look. Don’t reveal your trade secret to someone who has not earned your trust. Don’t commit your resources into the hands of an untested workers. Even God does not commit resources into the hands of untested fellows.

Subject that relationship to the test of prayer, time, small assignments, and your gut feeling. Pray about the relationship before you go deeper. Allow good time to pass before taking the relationship to another level. Don’t be ruled by your emotion. Keep your senses alert. The signs are usually there, we just ignore them. Start with small resources and test their integrity and sense of responsibility. If they are not faithful in little, they can’t be faithful in much. Follow your spirit or gut feeling or your sixth sense. It is rarely wrong.

Summarily, don’t be in a hurry to speed up any relationship, subject it to all kinds of test.

God bless us all.

Good morning Africa!

Good morning Nigeria!