We have looked at some reasons why marriages are failing, with specific focus on the singles and those engaged to be married. You can visit my blog for series 1-3.
Now, we will shift our focus to the married and what they should avoid to make their marriage last. I am trusting God that through these series, several homes will be restored.
1. One of the major reasons why marriages are failing today is the misconception about the purpose of marriage. Several people have misconception as to why God instituted marriage and so they are always blaming their spouses for not providing what they want. Marriage is principally for companionship and help. Gen. 2:18. God created Eve for Adam, so that he would not be alone and as an helper suitable for Adam.
It is surprising that some spouses still have confidants outside their marriage. Who else should be your confidant, if not your husband or wife? As a man, you should not have a better companion than your wife. Even your mother should not be a better companion. You have left your father and cleaved to your wife. She is now one with you.
Another major problem is that men assume that their wives are housekeepers. The truth is your home is your own Garden of Eden, and it is your primary responsibility as a man to keep and tend your garden. While your wife is to assist you in performing those duties, don’t expect her to carry all the burden of keeping your garden. If you do, she will be worn out, frustrated and won’t be able to give you the love and attention you need. Most women engage in business or paid employment to support their husbands, while they are still expected to keep the home. A good rule of thumb is to treat your wife the way you will treat yourself. Assist her in taking care of the children, laundry and even in the kitchen. It doesn’t make you less of a man.
Even if your wife is having challenge conceiving, it is not a reason to start maltreating her or to throw her out. You are to work together to overcome that challenge. The same applies the other way round. Don’t blame her for the delay. Encourage her. Pray for her. You are her King, don’t desert her. Don’t abuse her in any form, it is unmanly to beat a woman. As a wife, you are the Queen of your home, treat your husband like a King. Help him. Support him. Pray for him. Play your role well. Don’t assume leadership position in the home, you are his ‘helpmeet’ not his ‘equal’. It is most unwise to start competing with your husband.
Husband, love your wife and wife submit to your husband. Eph. 5:33.
Summary of today’s point:
– Understand the true purpose of marriage.
– It is first for companionship
– It is next for help.
– Understand your role in the marriage and play it well.
God bless us all.