As we grow in life, we come across different people, situations, work environments, associations and culture, which I will term ‘influencers’. And because there is no vacuum in nature, these influencers in some cases rub off their values on us and in other cases, they try to impose their values on us. They affect us either positively or negatively. We are rarely unaffected by them. Ultimately, the target is our destiny.
It is important to determine in advance how we will manage these influencers, otherwise when they come we won’t know and we may have dropped down our guards. Even as parents/guardians, we need to constantly teach and prepare our kids/wards to be prepared for life influencers and how to manage them. We should never drop any positive value for negative ones.
Usually, negative values come in attractive shapes and forms. Instant gratification, a little indulgence in alcohol and hard drugs, a little rough play with chicks, some wild parties, gambling, small fun of raiding stores, having fun with firearms, joining secret clubs, etc. They are usually described as fun, especially for the youths. Adults are not exempted, both male and female. Just a fling, have a side chick, one night stand, strike a deal, give your boss some attention, and so on. Before you know it, you are in deep and it becomes difficult to extricate yourself.
It is better not to start at all. If you are in already, find your way out today. Ask for help if necessary. Negative influencers do nothing but destroy destinies. Delilah influenced Samson and he died untimely. The Sodomites influenced Lot’s family and he lost all. Guide your good values jealously and avoid negative influencers. Don’t let them compromise you. You have a great destiny. Be a positive influencers too.
Let these words be your guide, ‘Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.’ – Philippians 4:8 KJV. Stay in charge.
God bless us all.
Good morning Africa!
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