We live in an environment that encourages communal living and extended family structures, which is good in some ways, but it sometimes engenders feelings of entitlement.
While we need a support system in life’s journey, it must be a system that we have contributed to building, no matter how small.
You are not entitled to reap where you have not sown. It is wrong to assume that because someone is related to you and doing better, he or she is obligated to help you. What if the person you are looking up to needs help?
I grew up knowing that there is a limit to what you should expect from others, especially those you believe should help you. Having lost our father at an early age (I was 2 weeks short of 15 then), the uncles, aunties, and relatives we thought would be of help couldn’t do much, and I hold no grudge against any of them. They probably had enough on their plates too.
I learned how to fend for myself and support my mother in my little way. I took responsibility for my growth and development, with guidance and the little support I could get. I never questioned anyone for not helping, and this probably is why I still find it difficult to ask for help (which may not be good on its own, because we all need help at some point).
The point is, seek help responsibly, but take responsibility for your life. Nobody owes you more than they can give. Know this and know peace.
Cheers, and have a great day.
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